My dad is an over dramatic alcoholic narcissist

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My psychiatrist herself believes my dad has narcissistic personality disorder. He's very selfish, acts like he's some kind of demigod, and all about himself. He treats us badly. He's depressed right now because he says we live in a crappy house with a crappy life and my mom disgusts him. He hates our lives. I love it. My mom loves it. He's the only one who has a problem. He thinks moving, buying a boat, and my mom not being so "disgusting" will help. #1 My mom is not disgusting. #2 We did that before and he said the same thing "My life sucks, this house is cursed, I lost everything." No you sold everything on your own accord to get cash and then we lost our house-like a lot of people do only we chose to walk away. You make yourself miserable. And now we are paying the price because you are currently drunk and yelling at my mom-which upsets me. He went 9 years without drinking once. What happened to those dad? Not that you were pleasant then either but at least you weren't an alcoholic. When I was 4 I asked my dad "Why do you drink so much?" and he decided to stop. Went 9 years. When I was 14 he started again. And apparently that charm doesn't work anymore. I'm sick of this. If it weren't for him I could honestly say I loved my childhood 100% but I can't. He raised me in fear. He told me when I was 13 that that's how you raise kids. If they don't fear you you're not raising them right. My mom however raised me differently so that evened things out. I just feel like it's never gonna get better. That my dad will commit suicide like his cousin after he lost custody of his kid after a divorce and I'll never have a happy ending to my story. That it'll only get worse. That my dad won't understand the hell he puts this family through. ...

My dad was the same way. The word "Alcoholic" says it all.

Just FYI I love my dad. I want him to get help but he won't because he doesn't think anything is wrong with him. It's us apparently, mainly my mom.

With an alcoholic, it's always someone else's fault.

Alcoholics anonymous have support groups for family members of alcoholics.
They may help with advice and understanding.

I second the above posters comment. Try Alanon. It's for family members of alkies. Your mother should go for sure because they can show her why he's like he is and help her understand that when he acts like he does and blames her, it's not her, it's him.

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Make sure to go to AA with your mom every time, just in case your dad starts accusing her of going to AA "just to see someone". He will likely never believe you (alcoholics always seem to feel simultaneously paranoid and persecuted when they can't be in total control of the people around them), but at least you can stand as witness for her against gossiping neighbors and relatives.

I used to run an Ala-Teen group (part of Al-A-Non). It was amazing. Some of those kids really blossomed. Just having a safe place to talk about all the crazy crap they had been through but felt they couldnt tell "normal" people really helped. They were finally around other kids who were going thru some of the same stuff. They didm't feel alone and weird any more. Then they could start separating themselves from the alcoholic in a good way. The idea being that you can still love an alcoholic and even live with them while you live your own life in a completely fulfilling and growth inducing way.

I hope you have a good group where you live...the person who ran it before me was flaky- late or not showing up kind of stuff...just what children and friends of alcoholics DON'T need!!