I'm curious everyone. What do we do to cope, fix, resolve what ails us. Of course I will start out. This is sort of a mix between abstract thinking about how to deal with what ails us, whether it's mentally, spiritually, or physically, or any other aspect of ourselves. I put it in haven instead of the health part because I think that if we talk about our successes in resolving our problems then perhaps others can get some info and maybe find help with dealing with their own dark places and problems in their life. One thing I'm not saying with any of this is that this is a solution for you, but it could be, or it could help you find an answer.
I have suicidal thoughts all the time, but I've learned to treat it like an intrusive thought. Intrusive throughts are the ones that when talking to someone tell you to physically assault the person, like slap them, or scream out at them, or to spontaneously do weird and random things. Once I wrapped my mind around treating the suicide thinking like an intrusive thought, where it was just some BS feeling that despite how bad I felt otherwise, didn't warrant me doing anything about it, I could deal with it. I attempted for a short time to drown these out with actual activities/distractions, and sometimes alcohol but it didn't fix it. I had to change my perception
My anxiety, I found that I just have to abandon or avoid what causes it. I don't have a quick turnaround like others of divesting myself of anxiety. What bothers some for minutes or hours, can affect me for days and sometimes weeks before I can get out from under it. I'm looking to figure out a way to shorten the turnaround on this. I'd like to get over things in minutes to hours but it just doesn't happen.
For my depression and mania that I cycle through I do different things. Sometimes I have to be around someone else when depressed, even if we're not interacting and just in the same room. For the mania, I've learned to not go out and do things because I will shop, and spend money, and be hasty and irresponsible with my self, so my goal when I'm manic is to kind of hide myself away to prevent me from doing stupid things.
For my weight loss, I cut out all the food I'm allergic to(corn, soy, wheat, cow-dairy, chicken), and changed when I eat to several small meals a day. In the last 3 years, I've lost 80+lbs total through this. I know I could exercise and lose more weight faster, but I have an injured knee I'm going to see a doc about. I had to switch doctors to find a solution for my knee, and I see a specialist next week about it who can hopefully give me an actual solution instead of a copout answer that doesn't even have to do with it. So I guess, being proactive about finding answers to my physical problems is what solved them. Eating food that I'm allergic to, makes my anxiety and depression worse, plus it makes me physically ill, so cutting food allergies out was a great help to me.
I have no idea how to handle my seizures beyond just accepting that they happen. No one knows why they occur, so I'm just stuck accepting the fact that they happen and that's all I got so far. Already seen a neuro-specialist about it who couldn't give me an answer. It's kind of unnerving. I had a seizure last month in front of several people and I thought I had a handle on it, but it really scared me. I thought I could deal with it and I didn't expect to feel the way I did about it, feeling scared and despondant afterwards which wasn't the same feeling I've had after previous seizures. This was the first one I had in front of others which may have had something to do with it.
I don't get along with my boss when it comes to completing tasks. I keep on getting in trouble for not doing work, I didn't know I was to do. After talking it out with my coworkers, I found that they have encountered the same problem and the solution is to ask if I am the "Action Officer" on the task. This way, the boss wouldn't assume asking one question about a small part of something was actually letting you know that you have the whole task/project to do. Now I ask if I'm the action officer for whatever it is and if he goes yes, I have to run the whole project, if not, then I walk away from it. A lot of stress and anxiety is now gone from my job after learning this.
So these are some of the ways I attempted to deal with my problems. If you have any tips or tricks for dealing with your issues, even if they are different issues from mine, then please respond with them.
05 Aug 2013, 11:05 am
