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I am so upset right now I am shaking. My wife and I just got kicked out by one of our roommates. She has been contemplating this for days because she asked us some things and we told her things she did not want to hear. She went to all our mutual friends and asked them should she kick us out. They all said no, we are good people and that what we where saying was true so she called my wife a pathological liar (like she is a clinician or something) and wants us out. Out other roommates said they are coming home right now to tell her if we go, they go.

At least we got a batch of good news today, despite this debacle.

Wife got hired today!

Let’s hope sanity will prevail and your roommate will come to their senses. Congratulations to your wife on the new job.

I hope that you all can find another place to live, because your current land-lady seems like a real problem. Some people shouldn't be asking questions if there is the slightest possibility of an unwanted answer.

Congrats on the job!

Does your roommate have the authority to kick you out? If you have a signed lease and have abided by the terms of the lease, she cannot kick you out.

If you live in the United States and pay rent, you have to be given 30 days notice to vacate.

She does. It is her farm, we are under a verbal agreement which is month to month. Technically we are living in a pull behind on her property but it is not self-contained. (we do own it tho! we are just renting "space").Good news is my wife talked to her mom and we can move into one of her currently empty houses that she rents for minimal cost. It is just going to take a bit of time to get a couple of appliances in there to make the place livable. We should at least have 30-50 days at least.

She actually seems to have a lot of problems. She asked us to move in when we had trouble at the place we where before alongside our other set of friends and asked for help with her farm. She has dairy goats dogs and a couple of pigs. We readily agreed providing her with dog food, trying to keep her house clean and help her with "changes" she said she wanted.

Two months later "we are trying to take over her life" and "we need to go". My wife's mom is so mad she was like "do I have to take my earrings off and go over there?" my mother in law NEVER talks like that is is a very classy lady.

Our other roommates are coming to talk to her. I am waiting at the rv, because I know me and I have a very very strong temper. And I do not always control my emotions well nor handle them well inside, well part of being an aspie I guess. I do not externalize those things with social graces and I could potentially become violent with this woman, whom disgusts me.

Mind you I wish her no ill and I feel sorry for her that she heeds help around the place and friends but she is willing to shun all those things that would make her life so much better. We will see what happens but, either way I really want to leave, even if she changes her mind. She is psychotic.

Last edited by Mirror21 on 02 Oct 2013, 2:34 pm, edited 1 time in total.

BTW: thanks for the warm congratulations.

She's psycho. In her world, you are her little charity project. She will take care of you and make your lives over; you are not worthy of input. I've played this game before.

Don't wait; leave as soon as you can hitch up the trailer and start the vehicle. Find a cheapo RV park and live there for a couple of months if necessary.

Do not wait. Do not look back.

That's wonderful news about your wife's job! Given the circumstances, I would be happy to pack my bags and leave as soon as possible to get away from such a dysfunctional person. With your wife's employment your situation is already better and your living environment should reflect that anyway. This is actually a positive development--you get to move on to bigger and better things!!

Still requires 30 days notice.

I am wondering what were the things this person asked you and your wife, and what were your responses? It must have been something big for this person to kick someone out.

I do want to stress the point that she was acting with no actual vrounds to be offended. She was talking to our other roomate about how my wife being black smelled funny lime other black people. For starters. Then she would ask us, do you think i have more animals than i should. We said yes, because her fencing wasnt appropiate enough her goats were going to the steets and people kept calling the cops to the point they threathened to arrest her. We told her we worried she would be taken to jail which no one wants for a friend. She would ask us to help her ean her house and we would then she would accuse us of making her feel bad about her house when all we did was agree to help her with what she asked of us. Not to mention our other roomates had been tbrough some serious s**t with her before us and because of her and she had the gall to insult this other roomate to the poi t that this lady instigated a ptsd attack on this other friend whom i had to cradle in my arms why she ried dont let them hit me (she had a very hard past).

This lady is toxic and all four of us are glad we are leaving. Us beinv me my wife jess and her wife. We have had nough.

How can we do gj disbes for example out of kindness and watxh her say we treat her like a horri le dirty perso because we do some of her chorez she laims she wants help with??

We cound out yesterday we are not the only people she has done this to either. She even said the reason her car and ac unit broke is because my wife brought a curse to gheir hiuse tbiugh they xid not take care of their ehi le and had not changed their ac filter in two years.

I am so vlad we afe going she even said she was willing to chanve ber mind we all said in unison we afe.go e in 30 days.

Quick Update:

We found a suitable place to go, and things are definitely looking up. We already got plans in place and may be out of the property by the end of this week if not the begging of the next!

Thats really good to hear! I know what its like to be homeless and its a really scary thing Hope this new place treats you both right