beneficii wrote:
I am transsexual and have a deep, burning need to have sex reassignment surgery. Lots of people don't seem to comprehend that, and I guess I shouldn't expect them to. Unfortunately, I'm in a bad position for getting it.
I am autistic and have trouble dealing with changing environments, living with another person I don't know well, and socializing except for structured interactions. I also have executive functioning issue.
For the first one, I am told to move in with people, split the rent, and just work my butt off for a goal that would still be a long ways away. Or get a job or whatever. As an autistic person, though, a lot of this stuff would be really difficult.
For the second one, people would tell me just to forget that goal, to just go with the flow. I can do without, they would say.
This is incredibly painful for me, and yet I feel utterly paralyzed, living in an eternal present. I want to change my position, either by geography or by job, to put me in line for surgery, but I have no farking clue how. People would just respond, Oh, well, that's your problem. Don't ask me to help you with it.
As somebody lucky enough to be cisgendered (I say lucky only because of the difficulties that transgendered people have due to living in our society, not as a knock against those with gender dysphoria), I can't say that I know what you're feeling. But then again, I'm not really good at knowing about anybody is feeling, not even me. I guess what I can offer is practical advice. If you're a student, then counselling services ought to be available to you. I've recently entered counselling myself, after years and years of wanting to, and I've discovered that you can find a very compassionate and helpful person who will be able to offer you understanding and techniques for dealing with these issues. For example, if I say I feel trapped and hopeless, my counsellor shows me that I have many other concrete options. I know this advice is vague and probably something you already know, but that's what I can offer right now. I hope you can find a solution soon.
06 Nov 2013, 5:20 pm
