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http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=57e4t-fhXDs

I recently watched this video, about how olympics competers' parents helped them get where they are, and got them back up when they fell.

This made me cry. Not because of how heartwarming it is, but because no one has ever been there for me, exspecially not my familly.

I have never been helped through anything,

I am screamed at over little things, forced to listen to my mom SCREAMING (as loud as she can) that she wants me to leave, that im a horrible daughter, that she hates me, that she wants to go and leave me behind.. Everything i say is met by "your so ignorant!! Why do you do this to me??" She does not hesitate to use swear words on me.. And she will downright ignore me.. Mouthing the words to a song and not listening to a single word i say. She tells me the bullying is my fault..

She has screamed some of the worst things you can imagine.. Because i call my sister a name. (Jerk, idiot, something like that.)

What she does hurts the most...

My dad shouts that missy (my sis) iis "an angel" and that im lazy and provide nothing to the familly, that im a terrible daughter.. He will grab me by the back of my neck and FORCE me to look at him while he talks, and he'll shout directly into my face.. He has pushed me outside in the freezing cold weather at 6:00 PM and wouldnt let me in for about 6 minutes.. He calls me a f**cking piece of s**t and other names.. Al this for the same reason as above. He threatens to take -insert special item here- and burn it, and threatens to sell my guinea pig on craigslist,

My guinea pig is the most important thing (i hate to call her a thing, but i dont have a better word.) i have... She licks away my tears, licks my nose, snuggles with me, hides in my hair.. And if someone else is holding her she jumps over to me, no matter how far away i am. To loose her would be loosing everything.

Back on topic,

My sister is the best.. And can comfort me at sometimes... But whill throw things at me, hit me, scream that she wants me to die, and other terrible things. She blames everything on me, hides my stuff, intentionaly does stuff do get me in trouble, kicks me as hard as possible, bites me, pinches me, calls me ugly, fat, etc.. Chokes me, pushes me HARD onto the ground.. Etc.. But my parents think she is PERFECT. If i even touch her accidently i get screamed at, but nothing is done to her if she hits me as hard as she can,


I remember when my sister kicked me in the stomach and i flew off the trampoline and landed PAINFULLY on my back. I screamed and cried, and when my parents finally came i was saying "missy did it" and my dad said "Shut up!! i dont care!" He flipped me over onto my back checked it, said i was fine, and left. My mom didnt do anything! And they didnt even yell at my sister, not even a "dont do that again". Not a single word was said to her.


A while later, my sister tripped over my foot. I was screamed at for tripping her and shoved into the corner of the wall, my nose pushed in painfully. I had to stay in that wall for about 10 minutes..

I dont get it!!

I have never been helped through anything, in fact i get yelled at for asking for it..

I cry myself to sleep every night.. And my mom says i deserve it.

I get screamed at for self pitying, and get told i have the "best F**king life out of all the kids in my school."

I dont know what to do anymore...



P.S: i do love them, and they can be awesome sometimes...but i just get really upset about what they do somtimes.


Lol sorry for the overly long post!

Gosh I noticed reading half way through that that you are 11! That is totally heartbreaking that your parents are abusing you like that.
Are you in the US? Over here in the UK you would report that kind of thing to childrens services. I'm sure they must have an equivalent over there.
Do you have a teacher you like who you could tell what is happening?

I can't finish posts like yours -- not because they are long, but simply because they remind me too much of how I was raised, and how my relatives still treat me.

Where were they when the bullies were beating me up and stealing my homework? Where were they when I was homeless, starving and sick? Where were they when I needed someone to say that they were proud of me for serving my country voluntarily and honorably? Where were they when I needed financial help during my time at university?

I don't want to dismiss them entirely with a heart-felt "F*** 'EM ALL!", but sometimes I often wonder why they didn't just give me up for adoption on the day that I was born.

Then I look at my wife smiling at me and everything is suddenly better.

I used to live in a small apartment building next to a mother and her 2 year old daughter. The mother used to scream at the daughter at the top of her lungs, put her down, call her names. I got so tired of it I called Child Protective Services (CPS). CPS asked me if the daughter was being hit. I said, "I don't know." They said they couldn't investigate unless I was sure the girl was being hit. Yelling, they said, does not constitute abuse. To me yelling is just as bad as being hit but they don't take emotional pain into account. Too bad. It would save innocent kids from their malicious caregivers. Take heart. In time this too shall pass.

You need to call the police or at least find a relative who will come get you ASAP. This is definitely abuse; it doesn't matter if they feed you, give you gifts and don't lock you in closets. Also, report CPS (you are in the U.S.?) for not helping you after you get out safe.

Your parents are doing many things seriously wrong and emotionally damaging. Are you in a special education program at school and is there a special ed teacher you can speak to about this. Your parents need some re-education on how to properly raise someone with autism, and a teacher interacting with your parents on a regular basis is one possiblity.

I think you write about 4-5 years above your age btw and must be a very intelligent young person. You can use that intelligence to try and raise your parents a bit.

Thank you guys!


About reporting again: i talk with a therapist every week, and i tell them everything that happens. If they believe it gets to the point where i am in serious danger, i wll be taken out of the household.

I still dont think that it is "remove from house" abuse though, my sisters freind's mom forced her daughter to smoke and would beat her. Thats my area considers abuse.


I do get severly yelled at alot (for unnesascary reasons), am sometimes ignored, and occasionally pushed. However, being thrown outside was a one time thing, and i was arguing with him afterall. If anything, they are mildly emotional abusing me. But not to the remove-from-house point.

when they dont think i did anything to "their perfect angel" and they are not in a bad mood, we can have lots of fun. (I wish i could have it to the extent missy did.. but hey, fun is fun, right? xD)

There is some serious favoritism going on though. Seriously, whats so good about missy?

Thank you for all your support, and i will try to see if we can make things better in this household


(Btw, thanks for he compliment on my writing i really appreciate it!)

They should treat you better

I don't think you would be removed other than as a last resort but I'm really surprised your parents aren't being monitored or made to go on some kind of parenting course or something. You shouldn't have to put up with what you've described

They are at fault. You are not. I am glad that you have support in a therapist. My therapist literally saved my life when I was a teenager--kept me from committing suicide. It is difficult carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders and on top of that, having to protect yourself from the people you live with. Take heart in the fact that one day you will be an adult and you will have a choice about how much involvement they have in your life.

The only advice I can give is this:

There are people like that on the show who have that support and do well, but I've also worked with students who came from nothing and made themselves into something.

Abuse can be physical, emotional and psychological.

As a child my mum would lock me in the house and follow me around calling me names for hours (stupid, idiot, telling me I was a problem child, that I ruined her life and she should have had an abortion when she had the chance instead of giving birth to me and so on), my brother threw me across the kitchen and kicked me until I had his boot mark imprinted in my back, I was locked out of the house all night following one argument (I was only 14) and had to find a friend to stay with as I had no other relatives I could go to and so on.

I call that abuse but tend to find society doesn't or at least not enough to do anything about it.

I would call what you are going through abuse too.

Society sucks for that reason. No one should be abused. Everybody should be treated with a minimum of respect. They don't realise that the things they done just cannot be repaired, it leaves a emotional scar.

I wish I had something more helpful than this, but the problem is them, not you. Parents are people too, and like any people, they can be bad people. Don't believe anything they say that tries to tear you down and make you feel worthless. They are wrong.