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I don't know how to control my emotions and I have suppressed my emotions for a long time. I have suppressed my emotions because I know it's something bad. I have went through a lot of hell. I think I know what emotions I have suppressed.

Which emotions do you have issues with? Are you afraid of experiencing those emotions? And why do you believe that they are bad?

From my viewpoint I consider all emotions as good and natural, the only issue that I see is when one feels an intense negative emotion (e.g. anger) and lashes out on others. However, this lashing out is understandable and is actually a form of defense (it's you saying I am not going to take any more of this!). So, one way around this is to develop a list of healthy coping/self-soothing strategies that you can draw on, assertiveness skills and the ability to express emotions in healthy ways. Fearing emotions is something that I personally view as problematic because it leads to more issues in the long run. There were times I have experienced others discomfort when I have experienced intense positive emotions, for instance, joy. In these contexts it wasn't inappropriate for me to express joy, instead the people responding badly to my joy were trying to bring me down to their level of unhappiness. My joy made them feel uncomfortable. So, in some circumstances you need to learn not to take other peoples responses personally (it's their problem) and allow yourself to feel the emotion through to completion anyway.

I do not know the context of when you experience these unbearable emotions, perhaps if you share an example that might help others to help you to figure things out.

Sounds like something a therapist might be able to help with. They can't take bad feelings away, just help to get thru processing them in a rationale way. Have you tried seeing a therapist?

I did seen a therapist before, which didn't work. I had to do most of the talking with the therapist I did had, which was hard to explain the problem. I know they can't take my bad emotions away and I don't have a clear mind. Yes, I am afraid and these are intense negative emotions that I have kept bottled up for a long time. It's hard to explain the context of what I want through, but I can say it's some where in my past. I still feel I can be able to work it out.