Thinking of moving on

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I'm not sure what my next step should be. I always feel like I'm moving on, moving to a new job, moving to a new town because I never like where I work or where I live. I just keep moving on.

I hate where I am now, so I'm thinking of looking for a new job in a new town and doing something different. I know that this isn't normal and people joke about how much I move around. But what else can I do? I'm not happy and moving on gives me the hope that something better is round the corner. It also gives me something to do.

In reality there is never anything better around the corner. I wonder if I should just stay put and deal with it instead of moving on all the time. Life is just so un-enjoyable. I don't know what to do.

I think that all the time.

If you have the ability to do it, I don't think there's anything wrong with that sort of lifestyle. I moved around a lot when I was younger, probably for many of the same reasons. If it gives you something positive to focus on, instead of feeling 'stuck' and aimless, I see that as a good thing!

Wherever you go, there you are.

can you describe how you prepare to move on? I want to do something like this for a while but I dont know how.

I look for a job in a new town and once I have it I commute till I find a new apartment and then I move there and start again. My resume is getting very long though and I wonder if the fact that I don't stay more than 2 years in a job will be a red flag to future employers.

Yes, I know. The only constant in all of this is me. That's why I think I should stay this time instead of running away again. The biggest problem is me. I won't be happy till I change myself rather than my surroundings.

Go outside. Find new interests. Clean your room or house. Call someone you've lost contact with over the years. Apply for volunteering or jobs.

It's nice to fantasize though, isn't it? Thinking of a new place, a start over...I do it too. I am with you. Sorry your life seems so empty.

You say you don't like where you work or live, but before you move do you think you'll like the new place and job? If yes, why do you end up disappointed with them? If no, what makes you decide to move anyway?

I don't know what the new place and job will be so it's a change for the sake of change really. I hope I'll make some friends, but same old thing happens and I don't fit in. It's getting more difficult to make new friends as I get older. Although, that may be unfair of me to say because I always meet lovely older couples through church and they become good friends. Just this morning I had coffee with 2 retired copules and we had a really nice time. I guess I'm an old lady in young people skin. I spend my spare time doing crochet and cross stitch.

I kind of hope I'll meet a man when I move on. There's no one here (I'm in a small town now. The kind where everyone knows everyone else.) But there's never anyone round the next corner. I think this is an area of life I should give up on. Romance is not for me nor even meeting a man who wants to spend more time in my company. lol.

I don't get along with my boss. I work for a very disorganized company and I feel like I don't know what I'm doing half of the time and I feel like no one cares. But I always end up being hired by disorganized people. I must appear to be an organized sort of person when I am interviewed, well I am, but I'm sick of picking up the slack for everyone else. There is nothing to work towards in this company. Everything is hand to mouth. We just make enough money so that everyone can pay their rent. I don't feel challenged, I feel stressed, but not challenged in a good way.

The best move I ever made was when I left my home town and moved in with a woman a couple of years younger than me. She introduced me to her friends and we went out alot and had fun. I miss that. All these friends have moved on and got married and have no time for me now. I don't fit in with their social circle anymore. We don't even live anywhere near each other anymore, we all sort of dispersed across the country.

An old boss from years back said to me, "you're certainly looking for something. I hope you find it one day." I seem to have no niche.