A tough decision

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I met a neat person two and a half years ago and we seemed to get along friend-wise. They are also on the Autism Spectrum and, like me, are on the milder side. They are able to make friends easily like NTs, get a career, and a a drivers licence recently.

Anyway, they most recently started appearing to make commitments and break them time and again by saying this or that comes up with their family since they live with a parent. They also have invited me to things and then when I hang out with them at the events they have seem to avoid me or act like they are better.

I was most recently invited to a new Year's Party at their house which is nowhere on public transit. I said I was going since they live a few miles from a train station. They even said that they would pick me up right? We discussed this a few weeks before the party over the phone. I never heard back. I confirmed about 4 hours before and I texted to see if they were coming. They said, "Oh I guess I cannot now. It turns out that I cannot take passengers in my car for the first six months of my having a license." They said they found out through a sibling. Yet that sibling or parent could not pick me up. Instead it would have been another friend's responsibility to pick me up. So I just declined and went to another party.

I asked "Are you even interested in me?" They said "Yes, I would love to get together with you but things often come up last minute. Believe me I am interested. "

They said they were going to come to my New Year's Day Brunch which they had no intention of. I know this because I heard through my other friends that they were going to go to someone else's house that day. Then they called up with their "I was going to go but I did not know that I had so much to do after my party."

Then they are constantly bragging on FB about how their life is so great and how they have all these great connections. This is next to belittling others and having an arrogant and superior attitude. So I finally just snapped and wrote them a letter on FB letting them know that I don't think it is a good idea for us associate.

I said that I did not think they were as interested in me as they said they were and that I would like to believe them but that their actions proved otherwise.

Either way, I am very sad about having to do what I did because I loved that person but I don't think they are being very nice.

Either way I am heart broken. I also recognize something else. I know what it's like to want to fit in and try to be something you are not. However, it touches my buttons when someone on the spectrum is lucky enough to make friends with NTs, make regular networks, have a career, etc. This while their other fellow aspie/Autistic cousins get pushed away and talked down to like we are nothing because we did not break through another barrier to 'Evole' fast enough.'