I need to leave my job ASAP

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I care for a guy with severe autism. There has been a longstanding issue that sometimes when he gets a cut or nick when I shave him. Today I got a call from his mom where she basically growled through telling me that having any cuts or nicks was unacceptable and that it was causing scarring on his face. when I tried to reply she accused me of "taking a tone with her" and said "don;t you take that tone with me." The subtext of the conversation was that she is thinking of filing an abuse and neglect complain which could land me in prison, incurr fines, preclude me from doing respite care or social work ever again and god knows what else.

I was going to send an email to my employer but decided to send it to my mom and my lawyer to look over instead. I am currently bound by a one year contract that expires this summer but I want out now. My employer has engaged in practices that are likely illegal on a federal level such as employing me for over 100 hours a week without fulltime status, benefits, overtime pay, or any tangible compensation for 60 hours a week for three years. When I first started some of the requests from my employer directly led me to failing or being forced to drop classes as it was logistically impossible to get to work without leaving class early even though I specified I was not available.

This on top of just starting classes after... go figure, almost three years since I was last in attendance and realizing I'm not mentally capable of processing advanced prose anymore. I toke an hour and a half to get through 8 out of 25 pages from one document with another unopened and today I spent 6 hours in place in a chair at starbucks to complete the essays by the monday deadline (and go figure, right as I was wrapping up my school declares a severe weather day off).

I spent 3 hours this morning cross country skiing and have been having a level of warranted body dismorphism that is leading me back towards anorexic tendencies I had when I was in my first college and then this... I have been thinking about killing myself every single day and quite frankly if she does file a complaint I'm going to douse myself in [non-incriminating daisies and dandelions] and [grow] myself on her lawn rather than deal with the stress and humiliation and permanent damage to my reputation that will result from a formal complaint or criminal charges. It has long been my policy that my response to permanent inoperable deformity is to take the cheep way out and there is no deformity more severe than unemployability.

Relax. No one has ever went to prison for nicking someone during a shave. If that was the case then the prisons would be flooded with nurses' aides and nurses. Hell, I've nicked a few patients in the past. You put a little astringent on it and it goes away after a while. That lady's reeking of guilt, that's why she carries on like a bully. People like her taint the halls of nursing homes and hospitals everyday because they're so riddled with guilt. I have no sympathy for those people at all. They can go scratch for all I care. You'll be fine. Try not to let it rent too much space in your head.

Electric Razor maybe?

Many people nick themselves while shaving even though they're highly motivated not to, it's their own body/pain after all.

Maybe it's been too long since his mom has shaved her legs for her to remember that, or maybe that's the problem, it's been too long since she's needed to. heh.

I seriously doubt several cops, a district attorney, a judge, and twelve jury members would ALL be completely inexperienced with shaving nicks enough to imprison you.

Most of them would probably mock the mother openly.

I'm more concerned about civil charges than criminal and the dept that oversees my industry rather than the police. She and thus he is a christian scientist so it is often unclear what steps I can take to disinfect/clean/treat wounds.

If I get investigated there is photographic evidence of his wounds that became inflamed from his incessant picking. There was an incident a while back where the downstairs neighbors were having a domestic dispute and when I opened the door to see what was going on they barged in. My coworker walked in and accused me of philandering with them and I got frustrated and picked the two of them up and dropped them outside the door. It wasn't reported because I had leverage because she routinely brings dates to the apt during her overnight shift. She claims to be platonic but hmmm... They and other neighbors have had run-ins with Matt with other staff but if interviewed it will not be clear that it was other staff and not myself and a couple of them dislike me because of noise pollution from the apt they associate with me. I have not always done my paperwork and that would not have been an issue before but now I feel like an idiot for assuming just because I've never had problems it wouldn't been a big issue. The justice system favors the plaintiff in every regard and there is little I can do to defend myself. If my diagnosis comes to light I could be in deep s**t because it may or may not have been a disqualifying factor.

This forum could royally screw me because my posts are publicly searchable and I did not use a unique ID that is different from other ID's I use. Some of the things I have posted on here could hurt me in a lawsuit and it doesn't matter because many of them are past the point where I can retroactively censor them.

Your paranoia, though high, is unwarranted. You're getting yourself in a tizzy for nothing. You'll see. All this will blow over soon and you won't even remember it. It's just your anxiety talking.