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My partner and I live with my parents, if we did not live here we would be on the street because neither of us have enough money to move out and are not entitled to welfare benefits.
The main problem is my mother, I spend half the time being ignored, my parents will pretend I am not there and not talking. Now if only they WOULD do that all the time. Usually when partner is at work mother will just storm into the room and get into my face and tell me how disappointing I am and I am a 'dirty', 'queer' 'tramp' and why am I not normal like other people, apparently I make everything in life difficult because I don't 'choose' to be normal. Then she smashes doors and dishes and gets very violent. Goes into a temper tantrum.
She won't listen to me either, she assumes everything I say is always wrong. She also gets mad at me if anything of mine is not in my room, If I have a sock in the lounge, thats it temper tantrum time, if I have food in the kitchen (cos why the hell would I keep food in the kitchen of all places!?) she gets mad. Dad's just a drunk.

There is not really much anyone can do to be honest, a friendly welfare benefits worker was shocked when I told her and did try to help me once. But I finish my exams in 2 months time (went back to education) and after that I am hoping to get a job and leave this place and never speak to the abusive duo ever again. But I am struggling to live this way.

That sounds terrible, I wouldn't want to live with people who just focus on the negative. My parents do seem a bit nosey to me at times, but they do care and I can reason with them. I think you're on the right track.

I can't help but see a correlation between this and other people I know who do that. Tge abuse always seems to come with a personal shame that tyey impose upon you. Does she complain about more than just you, and think of themselves as a martyr of sorts? I am no psychiatrist, but this seems like tge same kind of psychosis my brother and my girl's mom has. It usually goes away temporarily once you put her in an emotional place.

Regardless of who I am living with, I always am willing to stick a middlefinger at those who seek to put me down. It is a lot like handling a bully. They will keep picking on you, unless you decide to stand up for yourself. More than likely, they will respect you for it.

Thanks for taking the time to reply, this place is much friendlier than I expected.
Yes she does act as a martyr all the time, I'm impressed you saw into that without me mentioning it.
I have to be careful how I do respond because she can start threatening to harm herself. I'm just going to hold out a couple more months and flee and disown them. I would like to write a book about it someday.

My girl's mom did the same thing. Not to seem insensitive, but if your mom threatens that, it is likely she is just projecting that because she knows suicide will get you to behave. Like an abusive relationship, she could be threatening you as a form of emotional and mental control. After all, anyone worth their salt WOULD want to save someone from suicide, right? But it isn't unusual for someone to say that for attention, and make you wish they really did afterwards. This is why these days, I just tell the person threatening suicide to have fun in purgatory. Once you show disinterest in their ability to harmnor control you, the power they hold over you eventually weakens.

If she contradicts herself on a daily, Inthink that might be bipolar disorder. Once again, I am no psychiatrist, however this trend is less than new to me.

Hello I'm new to this site too and have been in your shoes, theres not much i can do to help but I've read and understand. Us aspires have trouble with keeping jobs onto of everything else so often are dependent on others. Ive been in exactly the same position as you, once i was staying with my mum and she quickly gets sick of me, and her husband hates me so i stayed in my room, they never even invited me down for a meal the b***h. I was creeping downstairs to get crackers and cheese as i was so hungry and they were in the living room watching t.V. I didn't want to make a row so i just went back to my room and slept as much as possible and read books but i was hungry. She made me feel less than nothing and was more interested in not upsetting her hubby… I have nothing to do with her now.. She is an aggressive alcoholic too. She has thrown me out 4 times too. A selfish COW.