A little bit of everything

Post Reply New Topic

Hi everyone,

There are a lot of things I’m dealing with. I’ll just give an overview of what’s been going on. Sorry if this is a bit long.

First of all I’m unemployed again. Still haven’t got my unemployment benefits yet. I have Asperger’s syndrome. I have depression and anxiety. I am single and hate it. I lost my job after only 3 months. Corporate closed our store. I was unemployed for two months before I found that job. In the last 30 days I’ve only had one interview. I don’t have many friends and the ones I do have live over an hour away so I can’t always go see them. I’m not good at networking with people. Winter weather and parking restrictions have only made things worse.

I failed out of college due to things out of my control over 5 years ago and haven’t been back since. I have no degree and no career. There is nothing that interests me as a field to get into. I’ve been working both part-time and or full time since then. I get to a certain point then I have to start over again. I’ve had to start over 9 times. I consider it a start over if I lose my job, have financial difficulty, losing a relationship, moving, or some other serious issue.

I am transgender too. I am in the middle of transition. I can’t legally change my name until I am out of debt which I can’t pay off until I am back on my feet financially. Can’t finish my facial hair removal either. My parents are having a hard time with my transition. As of November I am now welcome at their house dressed as a girl but they won’t use my preferred name and pronouns. My sister has been behind me all the way and calls me by my preferred name. I have been living full-time as a woman for 16 months and I’ve been on hormones for 16 months as well. I am male to female non-operative transgender woman and I’m only attracted to girls, other transgender women and genetic women.

My being transgender has obviously contributed to my difficulty in finding work as well as to my non-existent dating life. I am on anti-depressants and I am seeing a therapist who is trained to deal with people who have Asperger’s syndrome as well as transsexualism. My next appointment isn’t until next week. I have a history of depression and rumination. There is only so much support I can get from my family cause I am an Aspie and transgender. I’m looking for some support with everything going on. Feel free to comment or leave advice. Thanks.

When you say "A little bit of everything" you ain't kidding. All you'd have to add to that is biracial, atheist and alcoholic and you'd be complete. Seriously though I can feel your pain. Life must be really hard for you and the things that people take casually just isn't that way with you. I can understand that. I have nothing I can offer other than keep your head up and hope the transformation won't take much longer.

You say there's nothing that interests you. Is there anything you are really good at?

As for your isolation, can't your friends visit you? Does it have to be you visiting them? You could have a movie night or game night or something.

I have no idea what to tell you as far as careers go, but since you managed to land that job, I do believe you know how to search for work, find work, and convince someone to hire you. I'd put all the effort in now if I were you, since school will be letting out for summer vacation soon.

I can't help you with the problems you're having with getting your parents to accept you for who you are. All I can do is offer a virtual hug.

I hope to hear good things from you. :hug:

What kind of help have you already received? Maybe we could top it off with a bit of extra advice that we've found useful. There are people here, including myself, who also struggle with depression.