My mum and sister need to grow up

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So I've been busy with my uni work, until I got a stream of text's from my mum and my sister complaining about how they started a fight with each other over something really trivial.

There's really no point in getting into the details; my sister felt wronged because my mum kept doing something that was triggering her migraines; my sister hit her with a packet of digestive biscuits and it hit my mum's fistula arm. Then my mum throws this huge tantrum and wrecks the place and my sister continues to throw stuff back in retaliation. Can you believe she's my older sister?

Both of them are asking me to believe their side of the story and both sides sound fallacious. They both minimize their own role in the conflict and try to make everything about their own egos, when the whole damn thing could have been solved very easily. My sister could have left the room; my mother could have left the room; they could have done something else; they could have been assertive instead of aggressive.

My mum and sister hit a new low, though. My sister was basically saying mum was menopausal and that she won't admit she has mental problems; my mum stigmatized my sister for being on anti-depressants and then accused her of domestic abuse, comparing her to our father. They're now at the stage where they want to contact the police on each other. This is so stupid.

They're so childish when I'm not around and I hate having to clean up after their conflict. I'm heading home in a few weeks, but I almost feel like not coming home because I know I'll be forced to take sides. Neither of them are trying to look at their issues rationally. It's even more frustrating because for years, I have been the one that was forced to be responsible for my actions. When I had anger problems, I didn't make physical contact with other people and I HAD to be vigilant. For years, I have been gradually learning not to lash out and get angry and instead try to be rational. It's hard, but I did it and in all that time, neither of them really attempted to change their behaviour. Plus, I don't tell them about all the stupid s**t I go through at uni because I know that whenever I've tried to tell them my problems, they eventually got sick of me.

But I also know that it's easier said than done. I'm just sick of having to receive texts about how "she did this and she did that and blahblahblahblah".

I love them, but I think that this is ridiculous.