Okay, long story here so bear with me. I spend quite some time on Facebook and I'm involved in a group on FB where me and over a hundred other people interact daily just to mess around as friends. This past Monday one of the admins brought to our attention that someone had reported a post in the group, which is cause for concern since our group is essentially anything goes, and it's a private group also. Being an "anything goes" group, pretty much everybody including myself got pissed because people were reporting posts for what appeared to be no reason when it was pretty well established that if you don't like something, hide it or scroll away.
Then last night, the admins point out that a second post was reported, only this one was the post the admin had put up the previous day, and then she later mentioned that both reports were by 2 different people who had been in the group for a while. Everyone gets mad again, obviously. Then an hour or so later, the first person gets outed by another admin with the screenshot of the post they reported, and for the sake of this the reporter is named "X." Everyone who was previously mad had suddenly cooled off a bit, myself included when we learned X did it and I couldn't believe it.
Here's where things get sticky: according to X, she did it by accident and told the admins. Now I know X in real life and have for over a year but we hadn't been on good terms as of late, and I still wondered why she did it, and it appeared that everyone was responding to her but I couldn't see them, come to find out she had blocked me on FB, so I'm basically reading phantom posts. So I call her up just to ask why: she says it was an accident but everybody was going nuts and making a big deal about it, and I kinda agreed. My problem is that right before we stopped talking for the night she said if I was her friend I would've stuck up for her and told everyone that the animosity towards her was unnecessary, and while I wasn't exactly bashing her, I wasn't defending her either. Aside from the fact that I called mainly to get her side of the story (she blocked me so I couldn't read it) I couldn't help but agree that she's right and I felt so full of guilt.
That is, until everyone got together in a chat room and it was brought to my attention that X had earlier in that thread, claimed that she was an admin in the group when she wasn't and EVERYONE called her out. Then X says she doesn't want to "keep up the mess" when several people said that's exactly what she was doing, and then X apparently took it further when she randomly attacked another group member by saying that she was screwing around with someone else's husband on the side. Needless to say that had NOTHING to do with the topic at hand, and X kept saying that she didn't want anymore mess: mess that she was apparently starting. Then she leaves the group altogether minutes later and defriends almost all of them, even ones that weren't involved.
I guess my bottom line is I feel terrible for not sticking up for her, but upon learning that she was causing more problems....should I have?
12 Mar 2014, 7:49 am
