stuck on the treadmill of life

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:'( I worked hard, studied hard, got a degree. I first wanted to be army fail, then marines:fail , teacher:fail, Then mechanic: failed

Every woman requires, nice car, own place, handsome, great job etc life in order, know where you going, or ambition

I don't know where i'm going, and I starting to realize it might be nowhere. so i'm trash in their eyes, not that they ever even see me. their profile is like a must be this tall to ride sign. you wait in line get all excited then get up to the ride and see the sign, you just go so sad.

I read their ad or profile then get rejected at the end from the above. I feel so horrible. My job is seasonal and slightly above min wage. once they hear that they ignore me. or run away.

I just wish I could win the lottery buy a house far out in the woods and never go near people ever again. I don't belong with humans and death isn't possible yet. but i'm poor so :'(

suppose that's why frozen got to me so, I'd like to just go be alone, though I don't want to be alone I crave social interaction but I shouldn't I don't belong, but I can't go, so I spend 90% of my life just hiding in my room, I don't even hang out with my family.

Honestly, the number 1 thing I look for a man is empathy and support. Someone that listens to me, understand me and can comfort me. Someone caring and attentive.
I just found that out today.
If he is average looking, average money, house, whatever it's all fine.

but those arent things one can see. I have tons those things. yet I get looked over for a list of items. Like someone car shopping. half of whats hard is not having someone to do those things for. and if a girl does start talking to me, all the piled up empathy, support, romance, comes flowing out like a broken dam. I'd love to have a lady to listen to, is such a rare thing.

how did you find that out today?

she's interested in you, stupid!
send her a pm!
ask her out for a coffee or tea













I wish someone looked after me, way back when

highly doubtful. though maybe you meant it as a joke.
I hope it means she found someone to fulfill he needs. Every woman deserves that.

I feel so wrong and out of place at work.
I mostly like it while there, but feel so awful and cry on way home.

:'(

she wants you!

a**hole!




you think your alone?
You f****d up!
I told you what to do and you didn't do what I told you to do and now shes gone!

I listen
I hear
I think

She made a post a few days ago about her new boyfriend, so I highly doubt that. There's no reason to be so insulting, especially considering this is "The Haven" section.

Back to sly's post: I see your post filled with failures, but I don't think that they necessarily are. With the army and military, they exclude people quite often. They excluded me because I took antidepressants in the past, and they excluded my friend because he was allergic to a particular type of vaccine that they required. It's harder than it looks to get into either branch, you have to be very physically fit.

With respect to being a teacher, I don't see how you can say you've failed already at your age. To be a teacher, you typically need a degree in education, or at least a degree in the specific subject that you want to teach. Those are things that you can work for if you really want to, but I don't know that I would recommend it in your case. With your automotive degree, really the only teaching you would be able to do would be a high school shop class or something, but there aren't many of those kinds of jobs and often the teachers in them have been in them for like 30 years lol.

And regarding being a mechanic, you're still fresh out of school with basically no work experience...I'd be surprised if you DID have a job as a successful mechanic at this stage. Many of the good mechanics get that way through years of experience, it isn't something that happens overnight. You have the basics from going to school, but you may not have the practical and hands-on experience required to truly do the job well yet. That's not a problem though, because at your age pretty much no one does!

Hi
I want to apologise for going way off the track!

I thought this thread was about a relationship
but instead its about

sly279's struggle

sly279
I f****d up in this thread!

but I want tell you two things

you are young and will be able to absorb things that hurt

and I am an idiot

I try to Solve Problems on WP
when people are just sharing
seeking commiseration
looking for a friendly ear

My posts were uninformed and egregious
Please forgive me!

Try finding something you won't necessarily fail at. Something you are capable of doing. Then turn it around and don't fail. Its a first step to confidence. Everyone has things they are not up to doing.

the things I enjoy and am goodish at/confident are things that I can't tell or share with people until I know how they will respond to it.

I enjoy guns, i know alot about them I like taking them apart to clean them. guns are getting to be viewed like porn. tell the wrong person and it ends badly. its not something I bring up until talking for a while. I also love history though I'm i don't have a phd in it or anything. I enjoy learning stuff. video games, though i suckish lol. one or two other hobbies, but more of stuff you don't tell others. like liking star trek, star wars, star gate etc.

I don't know why, but I can't stop thinking of those pawn shop shows (Hardcore Pawn, Pawn Stars, etc.) Do you have any pawn shops in your area that are looking to hire anyone? I'd try that avenue if I were you.

If that doesn't pan out, maybe try applying to some museums? PhD's only really matter if you're looking for huge wages or for a teaching position where massive amounts of certified knowledge matters (think curator), but there's tons of museum positions that don't require that kind of thing.

What's your degree in by the way? Finding something relevant to it would probably land you a more well-paying job, although I've known people who get degrees and never use them too, so you're not alone there.

Annnnd with this one post hope is renewed LOL....Seriously i have made the same/similar observations as the OP and the next post i see is exactly what i excel at..I get too stressed to hold a regular job and am VERY very anxious when alone in life among other thing..About the only time i am aggressive stress aside is when i am worried for others.

So thank you for giving hope. I was starting to fear my est traits were as i put it "Like bringing plastic cups to a party". So yeah thank you for your post.

we don't have any real museums here except the very tiny city one and its only uses one employee and from what i see never visited.

I looking to be a security guard maybe.

its in automotive so, no jobs give higher pay for having it.

Not all women are like that, I never was like that (I'm married tho lol). On the bright side, you probably didn't miss out as much as you think because in the end, these women who want the guy who have a great job, career, etc, probably end up being angry because he works too much and/or spends more time at his job than with them. One day you'll probably find the right one.