Mpregangel wrote:
I've been having terrible panic attacks knowing when I stay at my gf's place next months her mother will be with her. She says she wants be to pretend we aren't dating so I'll be judged less harshly. I don't like take idea and the lying is making me panic even harder. I don't know what to do, I'm nothing like her family so I know I won't fit in.
Talk to your girlfriend about this. Tell her you're concerned and very nervous about the whole situation, and that you'd rather be honest and upfront about your relationship status. If you're comfortable doing so, tell her you feel like you won't fit in with her family and could use her help in "selling" you as a boyfriend. Although just an FYI, I'm nothing like my fiancee's family, and they love me for it. Just because you're different doesn't mean you're worse, only memorable. It's how you make that impression that will matter, but also keep in mind that first impressions aren't everything. Just be as polite as you can, and talk to your girlfriend about your anxiety.
Mpregangel wrote:
Plus I'm also supposed to more or less hide all the reasons I like her cause she's scared what others will think. It's all so complicated with NTs. I really want to give up and become a shut in.
What are these reasons she wants you to hide, specifically? That definitely sounds a bit odd, but maybe there's a way to really "sell" those reasons in a way that her family will appreciate. It's all about how you word it. If you say things like "Her body is amazing", then I can see where that would upset them, but saying something like "She's the most beautiful women I've ever met" is something they'll appreciate.
She said she is hiding it because she want her mother to judge me less harshly. Though the way I see it if I have a meltdown in front of her mother that is far, far worse. I feel myself slowly degrading even now to where it's hard to stand on my own. I really want to shut off.
11 Jun 2014, 10:31 pm
