It just seems like many of my friends have been getting more distant as years pass on.
A few in high school, a few during my college years. Sure I would make new friends too that would basically fill those vacancies, but now that I'm done with school, I haven't seen many of my friends in a while. There are a few of us that try to get together every weekend to play ball or something, but it just doesn't happen all the time.
Everyone is just busy with there own thing. Their new job, new place, girlfriend, etc...
The worst part though is some of my closest friends have recently been harder to contact. I haven't seen arguably my best friend, who I have known for 16 years, for over 2 months now. He moved into a new apartment recently, only 5 mins. away from me and I only was there once for an hour a couple months ago. For a while I didn't even hear from him. He's always with his girlfriend, or he's working, but I understand that.
What I don't understand is that he hangs with other people during these times. A couple of weekends ago I was gonna have him over to watch a movie and after saying he was coming, he told me he was just gonna stay home because he was tired....He ended up going out because one of his friends (that I'm friends with on FB) posted an update saying that they were eating at Moe's.
So what gives? Well finally he had a few of us over this weekend to chill a little and then he asked if I wanted to go camping next week. Sounds great?
Not really.
One of his best friends moved in with him so he wanted me to come with them camping, but their 2 girlfriends were going too. Now I'm sorry but I don't really think I need to go. It would be nice if just us guys would go and have a little man time for once, but if I go what is going to happen will be that I will be ignored the whole time. Then I'll be bored, lonely, and probably a little upset, so why would I go?
On top of that, I've had my troubles in the girl department, so why would I want to put myself through that over the weekend when I'll be the 3rd (or 5th) Wheel of the group.
Obviously I haven't said any of this to my friend yet, but if I tell him I'm not gonna go, he's gonna probably ask me why and try to convince me to come, so what should I say to him. I just don't want to drift apart like I have with some of my other friends.
16 Jun 2014, 12:47 pm
