Need help, coping with a job loss.

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I keep thinking about Feb-April, the hardest but best three months of my life... and the reason I keep thinking about it is because it was the best job I ever had in my life, and I lost it. Financially it didn't pay me any more than what I am making, but socially it taught me it how to interact as a human being. I can't say what it is, but I was in training to be interrogator, and believe it or not, I use the skills I learn in the training daily to maintain friendships, contacts, and talk to people.

The reason why I lost the job was because I couldn't keep my thoughts and notes organize (to write reports), and I fought to keep my job. And I miss it daily, it's the only thing I think about lately, the ugly to the best, it's like rehearsing in my mind.

Regardless, I have to say it taught me how to interact with people.

I could try to do the job again in 3 years from now (but I won't; since I am going a different route with my life at that time).

I have an "okay" job now, but it's nothing like that job in my opinion.

How would you cope with this???

It's a heck of a lot better than having no job at all.

You mentioned positives: You acquired the ability to relate to people during that last job.

You could, when you are ready, go back to a job similar to the old job.

It plants an irritating seed that won't quit until you get another job/work for yourself that gives you the same kind of satisfaction, your job as an interrogator challenged you, so you are motivated by challenge. You would do well to keep seeking positions that challenge you, even if by trial and error.

I was working at a chain restaurant, for quite some time, and it was soul-crushing to me because I have a genuine passion for cooking, went to school, care deeply about my industry, yet I had just taken a job for a paycheck. Now I work at a AAA four-diamond property with a talented chef and hard-working kitchen crew. The difference is phenomenal.

Take what you love and make your own career out of it. If you like interrogation, maybe you might enjoy private investigation work or consulting for police departments (degree in forensic psychology, for example).

I agree with above that once having a challenging job, slowing down to a boring one is probably going to be dissatisfying. But it may help to think of it as a continuum, that things will change and you can steer yourself once more into a interesting position. When you start out you tend to think you can do anything and the sky is the limit. But we all have limits and exploring and finding out where they are is part of it. We all have strengths as well and figuring out those is a very useful step. Because in those areas you may reach quite high.

But I hear what you are saying about how that job was so useful in helping you in the social area. But I doubt, real doubt, only interrogation is a good job to stretch and help you socially. Technical fields are ok, as you say. That's what I did mostly. But my favorite job was a 2 year stint managing deployments. Very busy, very stressful, had to work with gobs of people and agencies, but it was rewarding in a way the technical job was not.

Whatever happens just keep on rolling with it and don't let any one frustration or disappointment stop you.