Am I Petty About My Moving Out?

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So, the story goes like this: I asked my mom if I could move out of my place. While she said that I could, she was hoping that the reason had less to do with my oldest brother. I'd be lying, if I said that it wasn't one of the reasons.

To understand this, I'd have to give you the short story: my eldest brother is a sociopath of sorts. When I live there with him, he was spiritually, mentally, emotionally abusive, a pathological liar, is just all around selfish, hypocritical, and good at playing both the antagonist and the martyr. The kind of person who will commit murder or make you do it beforehand, then calmly blame you for everything to the cops. Dealing with him brought me enough to the brink that we both got into the violent tussle that won my freedom.

Now that I have moved in with my mom a floor below, it is hard for me to enjoy my freedom knowing that I would eventually bump into him again. He has wanted to apologize, but I rejected it and compared it to an abusive boyfriend apologizing to his passive girlfriend. You know that story: his apologies become less than honest the more he commits certain acts, and in time, the apologies become just a form of emotional puppetering. That kind of residue only goes away using certain kinds of company. Anyway, I found that the best thing for me to do is be feet away from where he will be. It might not be a failsafe plan, but it may be a way to get myself back on track. The place I am looking to move is in my second oldest brother's place.

So, my question is: am I being petty about this or is it fair game?

Are you moving to a place totally outside the house where you are staying now?

To me, you're an adult. If you could rent and bills, etc., it's never too "petty" to move out on your own. You have to assess whether you could actually afford to do so.

If you decide to stay, at least for awhile, just don't let him draw you in.Do not believe one word from his mouth.

OP, your brother is someone best avoided. I wouldn't even talk to him anymore, and leave when you're in the same room. He'd be dead to me, his existence merely a stain left on this world.

not petty to be better for yourself.