Problem With Vengefulness

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I have a huge obsession with getting even, and it's really starting to take its toll. I mean if someone makes me angry enough I will spend the longest amount of time gathering evidence against them for one huge take-down so I can destroy their reputation from the inside out for hurting me, and I want to stop because this addiction to getting even is going to get me hurt one day once I go too far. The last victim was my best friend of 8 years. I found out he stole from me and destroyed my reputation, and so I spent an entire year sabotaging his relationships with people because he did something similar to me, and I finally broke it off with him AFTER I was done destroying his relationships, rather than just letting it go at the first sign of trouble. I am not sure what made me this way, and whether or not anyone else on here acts the same, but I need advice on how to quit this nasty habit once and for all.

Just stay well away from people if that is the way you are, especially me.

You sir, make me laugh!

TS: It's sounds hard to be that vengeful. The only advice I can give is to let it go. If people really treated you really bad it's not a problem to seek vengeance but not for normal stuff. If, like you put so much time in it that's just not healthy. Just get them back once and be done with it. I think everyone has these feelings but acting them out like an obsession like you are doing is not healthy.

Oh dear. I may have to get revenge on you now.

Honestly mate is it worth you spending so much time and effort being vengeful?
Why not let your feelings be known to the person then turn around and walk away and get on with your life.

It's hard to be happy while you're being vindictive.

Well I admire the dedication, I have to say I have a vengeful side as well albeit more impotent. I'm not sure what advice to give other than to try to keep your anger in check and keep things in perspective of what really matters. I've never been the type to turn the other cheek, if somebody stole and spoke ill for me then I probably wouldn't let that go either.