My family took my Seattle dream and made it theirs

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So, I was writing up a big post on this issue, but I guess Google Chrome closed out on me unexpectedly so I lost everything. I was trying to give some background to my current family situation and how that all relates to my dreams of moving to Seattle. So I will try to make this short and sweet. If you need extra background on my situation, you can skim through my older threads.

For over 8 years now, I have been going to school in the hope that one day after I have completed my education, I would be able to move to Seattle from this hell place called Boise, Idaho. There are nothing but bad memories here for me. I have been contending with all sorts of family drama and being used and constantly criticized by the family. My dad and youngest sister have been the worst. I think everybody in the family is miserable here in Idaho though, and everyone has a singular desire to leave. So, let me be clear about this, that dream was mine and mine alone for the last 8 years, since everybody else had their own plans for moving out of Idaho. My dad, mom, and younger sister were desirous of moving back to Montana, while my youngest sister (the a--h--e) wanted to move to Baltimore, MD.

Suddenly, this last May, my younger sister and mom decided they were extremely interested in moving to Western Washington. My dad, not so much, he thought it rained there constantly and he just didn't like the idea of the big city (he loves rural areas, as well as my mom and younger sister do too). My youngest sister wanted to move to Baltimore and nowhere else. She said she hated the entire family (with a vengeance) and wanted to go with her 4-year old son. However my dad soon began to show some tepid interest in moving to a small town near Seattle (the Kitsap peninsula: Bremerton, Silverdale, and Port Orchard) is what they are looking at right now. My dad, mom, younger sister, and I took a trip up there a week or two ago, and although my dad HATES Seattle and the King County suburbs, as well as Tacoma, he liked the Kitsap area as well as Puyallup.

Anyways, while we were gone, my youngest sister gave it some thought and she decided it was more important to be close to family than to hate everyone. She decided that she is going to take a trip up to Seattle in a couple of weeks and look around a bit (I guess Baltimore is off the table).

So now I am going to quit recounting and just speak my mind.

THIS WAS MY DREAM, YOU FAMILY. You guys realize that I have been babysitting the youngest sister's 4 year old (being used, no less) and getting no emotional support from my father, who I live with and have been a loyal son to for the last 8 years. All you ever do is criticize me for everything, when I am a major source of support for you. You never accept me for beNow, when I have a dream, you guys decided to appropriate my dream. Now a place that was to be my last refuge, my last best place, is a place that you people have made into a hell, that you have stolen from me and are turning into your own twisted dream, and now I will never be able to dream of that place again, because everyone, and I repeat, everyone, is moving there. Even though it will be nice to have family support in starting up there, I feel like you people have stolen my dreams and made my heaven into a hell.

Thanks a lot, you so-called family.

Sue 'em.


Next time dream of Hell.

You don't have to visit them. You can live in Seattle and be blissfully unaware of the pretty but impoverished areas of western Washington.

Better yet, move to Portland, OR, it's like a mini Seattle.

imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. take it as a compliment.

Does this not mean you will have family in seattle who you can stay with when YOU move there?

I mean... its mighty convenient for you.

Hey.

Just because your family visited the area and have plans to move there doesn't mean that it'll actually happen. Moving is a big step and plans can change. If they do end up moving there, you can still live out your dreams in Seattle. It's a big city, right? So, just get a place wherever you want and remember to establish boundaries.

Better still: Tell them you've changed plans and want to move to Baltimore with your sister.
When the are all established there you ran away straight to the place of your dreams
Sees you later!! !

I can understand your issue, because I feel as though I will excommunicate my family, but remain in contact with my siblings.

Next time, don't tell them your plans until you're ready to do it.

Move to Vancouver, and pee south.

I did something like that to an old store manager I didn't like. Always taking credit for my ideas. Told him I wanted to go to South Carolina, and how wonderful, and hospitable it was. Next thing you know, he moved there. He was crying for his job back in two months. What an idiot. Seriously though, if all the a-holes are moving to the same place, you know where not to go.