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When being deliberately ignored or shunned by others, when treated as invisible or when you notice that when you speak,others look at each other and rolls their eyes, and this happens over and over and over again, what do you do? I smile. I pretend that the looks or snide remarks went "over my head," Then I go some place where I can be alone...and I cry. And I know that deep in my gut I will never figure out why cruelty seems to be such sport.

Can someone please explain. I am suddenly terribly sad.

I am extremely sensitive too. People will tell you to ignore what mean people say or do to you, but you can't just turn off your emotions. I actually don't have a job right now because I couldn't handle the new people that got hired. So I quit. I think people are mean because they are unhappy and negative. I am blessed to have a couple of really good friends. For me, it is really important to have as much contact as possible with people who like me and are truly friends. I'm on here to make friends. The more the better. But when someone hurts you, and you thought they were you're friend, you have to kind of ride it out because people aren't perfect. They may hurt your feelings accidentally. I almost cut my best friend off several times because he hurt my feelings. I'm so glad I didn't. Let me know if this helps.

This happens to me all the time. People try and take the piss out of me, thinking they're being so incredibly witty and subtle. It's making me dread working anymore because I know that in 90% of workplaces, this will happen to me. I don't smile though, I just tend to give them a filthy look. Then it simmers and seethes inside me and will most likely end up coming out as a rant to someone later on. I'm so, so sick of it.

I think most people have a built-in hatred of anyone mentally different to them. In this day and age, autism is still a joke to most people. It's so horrible. But at least we're not alone in this - it probably happens to a lot of people on this forum. I hope you find a way to help yourself feel a bit better after those pricks act like jerks

Here's something to think about... When people do that sort of stuff to you, they're really just showing you what sh***y people they are. You should really be thankful because now you know not to waste any more time on them.

You don't want sh***y people for friends and you shouldn't care what they think of you. They are beneath your contempt. Don't grant them the power to make you cry. Ignore them, and keep on looking for good people to be friends with. Good people are rare, but they do exist. Keep looking and you will find them.

^How do you just ignore them though?

Because we take things literally, the people who are mean, who don't have time, who are confused by us, and who look past us or are intentionally cruel, they all blend together to make a world we never quite feel part of.

You're working really hard to make things better and will run out of time even if you are perfectly healthy----people have been hurting each other since there were people----and you're a good person Vicki. I think you may be sad to not be able to do more to enjoy and to make the world better for you and for everyone.

This is just what I think and you seemed like you are asking

I care because I identify with what you're going through. It's hard to ignore people. I can't ignore the nasty things people do or say to me. I didn't mean that the people you're talking about are doing it unintentionally. They obviously are. I wouldn't pursue a friendship that starts out with someone treating me poorly. I avoid people like that the best I can. The world is full of them. Most people aren't as emotionally sensitive to what others think about them as we are. I don't know you, but I believe you are a caring person who just needs to be around people who treat you with respect and offer true friendship. Just get away from mean people. It's not worth trying to battle them. I have tried many times, and I usually end up more upset than if I just walked away. I feel like the more positive interactions I have with people, the less the negative ones weigh on me.

Thank you for the kind words and hugs. They helped.

I can relate to this with every inch of my being. I'm super sensitive and sometimes the littelest things can hurt me. I think having trouble with non verbal communication plays a big role for me because sometimes I take things the wrong way or I think I do . I also have flied under the radar my whole life and I dint react outwardly when upset sad etc so I'm often invisible. Also I'm so used to smiling thru the pain...Good luck

I ignore them & try tuning em out & do move on with whatever I'm doing. Or I get frustrated & storm off mad.