Work stressing me out but can't leave

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I work as a cleaner at a care home but I am getting really fed up. I won't go into detail about it all, but I really want to leave, but can't find anywhere else to work because there's just no jobs out there.

We've been told by the manager ''if you don't like it, there's the door,'' and I know some people will argue that they can see her point, but at the same time I still dislike that attitude because I can't just leave. If I could leave and not have to worry about money or had another job lined up, then I would hand in my notice tomorrow. But I can't, so I've just got to stay until I can find something else. That could take years.

I want to move in with my boyfriend soon, but I've got to find a job in his hometown first, because I can't expect him to keep me. I am thinking about working from home, but I suppose it's not as easy as it sounds, otherwise most people would be doing it. I just have higher anxiety levels than most people, so the pressure at work and the moods of other people affect me even more than the average person, and yes I am on antidepressants blah blah blah but I still get emotional and stressed out.

I've tried to contact the Adult Disability Support team, and I had arranged an appointment to just have a chat and see if they can perhaps help me find another job, but they didn't turn up, and when I rang them they came out with this lame excuse, which is not very professional. It's clear that they just don't want to know because I've already got a job.

So I'm kind of stuck. I hate today's economy. Makes me wonder what life is all about, being brought into this world whether you want to or not, then having to grow up and work somewhere you don't want to be and be spoken to like you're a liar or worthless, just for a bit of money so that you can continue to live in this world you didn't ask to be born in, and then we just get old some day then die, and then it's all over forever. Why can't houses just be free to live in, and you only pay someone when something needs maintainance, but otherwise no rent? Then you'll just have the bills. I know we have to have money and everything but it's all just gone too far now, and things are so complicated and unfair.

It would hard for me not to sabotage my work in the same situation, hopefully you'll find something new soon enough.

When I had that problem at my last job, I "ragequit" by whistle-blowing on some highly-unethical-but-not-outright-illegal activity that was going on in the company. (I'm simplifying the situation)

I didn't try to hide that it was me who blew the whistle. I knew I would get fired if they found out, and I believed they would find out; this is why I say I "ragequit."

So now I'm on unemployment, doing mostly OK while I look for a new job.

If your bosses are doing anything illegal or unsafe (and assuming you wouldn't be in physical danger by speaking up), try that. Try ragequitting by whistle blowing.

I don't think anybody's doing anything illegal at work, and anyway I don't want to get myself fired otherwise I would feel like I'm letting myself down.

I was thinking of cutting down one day, but I bet everybody's going to criticise because I will be getting ''less money'', and also the boss probably won't let me cut back, as we're short-staffed as it is. The problem is, people come to the cleaning department, then a few months later they go into care, then we're short on cleaners again. I don't want to do care because although I am a very empathetic person, I am too timid and it's just not my thing, also I don't like vomit.

I am thinking of working from home, like inputting data and emailing and typing and stuff like that on a computer, because I'm good with that sort of thing. My boyfriend is willing to help me look into it when I move in with him, because then I wouldn't mind doing full time because I will be at home. And no it is NOT laziness, it's just that I seem to feel very overwhelmed at work, and I think I will feel much happier working at home, even if it's quite a lot of work. But I suppose it's easier said than done to work from home.

It's great that you've found a boyfriend, and that things are going well for you in the romantic front.

I guess I would use that positive to offset the negatives which you find on your job.