Trust Issues

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I know other people have made posts about this before, so I apologize for being redundant, but I have trust issues, and I'd like some help overcoming them.

Is a specific situation responsible for the rise of these trust issues or a buildup of many things?

I think it's a buildup.

I once had a girlfriend who was part Native American.

Where did that come from? Lol

Regarding trust, I have problems there too. My father left my mother and I when was four. Eventually she married a new guy (and later separated.) He disliked me so much he bought a house for he and my mother, and then made it quite clear I wasn't welcome. I was in university at the time and found this disruptive. I was in an abusive relationship for nine years. I've been dicked around by the mental health bureaucracy. I have a hard time trusting anyone.

Unfortunately as far as I know there aren't any quick fixes, people are going to have to prove themselves trustworthy to you enough times that it gets rewired in your head that people are okay. You're also going to have to put your head on the line some and hopefully not get burned more.

I've got deep seated trust issues as well. To the point that I doubt I could even act on a girl who shows interest in me who I'm interested in as well. I'm really afraid of interpersonal relationships and the prospect of contact. Being broken sucks.

Was that an "Indian giver" joke?

I was trying to establish a commonality with the OP.

Um, how? Is this about the thread where I question the term "American Indian"? If so, I should probably tell you that I'm as white as the average Caucasian, if not whiter. I only made that thread out of curiosity.

My girlfriend has trust issues and we're in a long distance relationship. She lives in UK and I live in USA. I have to make an extra effort on her and it's hard on me with being aspie and all. But she is totally worth it to me. So just remember there are people out there who are willing to put forth the effort for you. And those that don't just are not worth it.

I don't what to say except let people earn your trust. Don't give it away free and don't withhold it if the person has proven themselves. Realize that the fear is something that you are going to have to fight whenever it is time to trust someone new. You will learn through trial-and-error when it is safe to trust. At least that has been my experience so far. I have a lot of trust issues too, but it gets easier a little at a time.