Does bullying make you aggressive?

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Has anyone found that bullying has made them aggressive in response? I'm making this on the behalf of RedMage. She feels that being singled out or targeted aggressively makes her angry.

I've had problems with bullying, and my responses were rather passive and regrettable. I was concerned about getting in trouble, when I was in high school at least. In primary school, I didn't know very much about other people's feelings whatsoever, and bullied weaker, younger kids as they seemed easy targets. I didn't punch anyone, but I was rather clumsy and prone to making mistakes. I did have violent outbursts, and ended up hurting a few of my "friends". I felt bad when I got in trouble for it, I couldn't stand being shouted at and told off for it. I came up with various responses to bullying as the years went by, and I was still seen as vulnerable by many. Never been beaten up though, except for being punched in the face because I got someone expelled.

I was an oddball, and bullied in all of them. I can only be thankful that it's over now, and I don't have to go through it again.
Bullying has made my personality darker, and I have pent up aggression that has somewhat dissipated over time, but it's still there.

If I had to relive all that crap, they would all suffer for being so mean to me. This sort of thing makes me feel angry, but I'm stronger now, and I understand more than I ever did when I was in High School.

Thanks for making this topic mate... I have nothing to post at the moment though.

It made me very aggressive, but no matter how aggressive I was it was'nt enough to scare people into leaving me alone. I was forever screaming at my classmates, I often threw things at them, sometimes I even hit them but it just was'nt enough. They treat everything as a joke and if you held a gun to their heads they'd just laugh! Nowadays, even though I feel a lot better I'm still VERY angry.

I've been bullied by classmates, coworkers, family members.....and I never spoke up or fought back. When I was little, I just couldn't understand the concept of hurting another person. As I got older, I was just afraid of getting kicked out by parents, suspended at school or fired from my job.

Years later, I got kicked out by my father for not being a Jehovah's Witness, got laid off/fired several times in five years, was hospitalized for depression and had to go back to working fast food, even though I have a college degree.

I figured if I was being "good" all this time and still couldn't get anything out of life, what do I have to lose by sticking up for what little dignity I have left?

I was the most passive person when I was very young. I just took all the teasing that they laid on me. Eventually though, it got so bad that I cracked. Then I would basically go for the throat. The first instance that I remember was on the playground (something to do with kickball), where I tore some poor sot's mouth & face apart. I became more and more violent, using furniture as weapons. I kind of learned to get a thrill off of this, and started going into bad neighborhoods, looking for trouble. I never started anything, but was armed. I've pretty much given this up (certainly the armed part), but I suspect that if anyone actually teased me again (recently the only person who has was my mother, and I was about to dismember her with a meat cleaver before reason stepped in) I would go berserk again. Especially if I felt there was no way out of my situation, such as at a job or with someone I was forced to be around.

I was bullied when I was younger. For being weird and quiet. Then when I was 13 I decided I wasn't going to take s**t from anyone, so I got aggressive when someone tried to take advantage of me. So now I get really mean when I feel threatened. It's not a good thing.

Being in the army for the last two years I've been forced to be around a lot of people that I despise. I was bullied much as a child, I was a passive person and I never really understood why throught my entire childhood people bigger then me always wanted to hurt me. I got angrier and angrier but I never got into any fights (probably because I was "home schooled" for most of my grades up until JH and HS, which really meant I just read whatever books I felt like reading).
These past two years in the army I've never been angrier, if it wasn't for the fact that I'm getting out I might actually kill someone. I've done a lot of things I'd have never thought I'd do (like drink, smoke, commit acts of extreme rudeness).
I find when I'm getting really bad I'll go out of my way to try to get into fights with random strangers. I'll do things that are extremely rude, things that I'd get in a fight with someone if they did it to me.
I'm tired of being made fun of and mocked, just thinking about it makes me angry. All someone has to do is make one sarcastic remark, and I'm thinking of whether or not the time in jail would be worth it.
I've never dealed with such a low class of people before. I don't mean low class like their gangsta's or thugs or whatever. These are a bunch of complete failures at life. Many of these people have mental disorders, the kind that I don't like to deal with (The kind of people that have serious problems but don't realize it and won't believe it or know what your talking about even when confronted).
My first room mate was a raging alcoholic, my second was an insomniac, my current room mate is a drug dealer. Honestly the drug dealer has been the most bearable, he actually doesn't do anything that bothers me and he's almost never around (but some of his friends are annoying as hell).
I've had to deal with a lot of horrible people, I really hope I get out soon as this place makes me very angry...

I would be verbally aggressive mostly, I believe, and it is still the same. I have only once been physically aggressive as a result of bullying and that was only a kick in the shin. I was mostly passive. I would run off and cry or just hide away somewhere.

I was bullied all the time as a kid, and I also bullied people.

Not any more.

As I've matured, I've grown to ignore, these boring folk.

They've got nothing better to do so they turn to me, and see if they can get a buzz out of winding up "That Fat Kid".

The issue I now get aggresive is Social Rejection.

Yes,since i was bullied in the past,i'm aggressive most of the time,even when not bullied,but once i'm bullied,i become hyper-aggressive.

Iruka, you give me hope. You actually have insight into your violence problems and you understand that they are wrong.

I was bullied constantly as a kid and at first was very passive about. Eventually I became very aggressive. One day when I was 16 while being bullied I finally snapped and put my tormentor in the hospital for 3 weeks. After that I was no longer physically bullied but was completely isolated. This incident occured off school grounds and he was 18 16 so criminal charges were never filed against me and I was never kicked out of school. In my old age I am no longer agressive or violent but I won't take crap from anybody.

The bullying started at a very early age and did not stop until I left that school at 8th grade. Some people there STILL gossip about me. And these people I've only met,like,twice and manhy of them I had never spoken to.

It was around the beginning of 8th grade,that I became agressive. If I heard someone say--as I walked by--,"It's that weird girl. Isn't she queer?"

I would whip around,give them a cold glare,and say,"Yeah,but I'm not deaf."

At first,I would fight with words,a cold glare,and a certain posture and walk. This creeped people out and they no longer would bother me to my face,but they still did things like gossip about me for hours and prank call me.

It wasn't until three months into 8th grade,that I heard a girl say that I was a Satanist(she was standing right behind me). I whirled around and punched her in the face,putting her on the ground.

A few months ago,there was this girl who was talking about me(I had to go to a fall festival at that school since my siblings still go there),and I dragged her outside and beat the hell out of her. I put her in the hospital for a while. That was the last time I got into a physical fight.

But,yeah,bullying has made me agressive.

I don't take drama from anybody,and I like to say,"You do your s**t,I'll do mine."


-SpaceCase

Some days I would just as soon that they ganged up on me while I walking down the street and simply beat me to death and get it over with. The death of a thousand cuts is not what I remember signing up for in life.

You don't take s**t from ANYBODY,thats what i like about you.