Selective Memory when Dealing with Parents

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I don't think my parents respect me enough. It might be because I outright FAIL to remember some of the things they tell me to do, and they feel offended when I don't do everything that they ask of me, as if they can only accept perfection from me. When I'm in a really bad mood, I feel the need to hurt myself to make myself feel slightly better, because when I upset my parents over something that I feel I could have prevented, I'm convinced that there has to be some form of retribution on my part. Do you think I might be holding a grudge against myself? Should I learn to be more patient about my shortcomings, even if my parents aren't? How am I supposed to overcome my memory problem?

I found sticky notes helpful.
When my parents tell me I am supposed to do something I tell them to write it down and put on my desk or I just write it down myself. I forget way less stuffs if I have a sticky note on my desk, reminding me about the thing I am supposed to do every time I look down from the screen. Sometimes I even do it as soon as possible just to get rid of the yellow thing in front of my eyes.
And if I actually fail to do it I at least know exactly what I did wrong and accept the punishment. Getting punished for something you forgot to remember is more hurting than getting punished for something you had written down but procrastinated for too long.