Why NTs always see me stubborn?

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Sheesh! What on Earth when NTs see me as stubborn when I share my feelings to the situation? NTs always see me being depressive and banter everytime when I share my feelings how bad the situation is and what happened which influences my comfort and confidence.

I can see that NTs brains are wired to be careless!

How many people share the same opinions of you?

Every one of them?

If yes, then maybe they're right.

Look for the one most common element in all of their opinions, and there is where you are likely to find the source of those opinions.

(Hint: Not all of those people are likely to be 'Neurotypical'.)

They are pretty careless and when they flip that carelessness on me (for example) becuase of my use of their vernacular in order for them to understand me as a joke, it angers me to no end.

Going back to the topic at hand, you probably could be stubborn though I can't say and you shouldn't really say that based on just being what they perceive as "negative" all the time or whatever it is that they think. Just being negative constantly doesn't make you stubborn. It's consistency, and it could just be that it's just a part of your personality. What would make you stubborn is if there was good, solid, and legit proof against your belief/case and you refused to change anyway. If you do that, then yes, you are stubborn and that's not a bad thing, though it potentially could be.

Whoever called you stubborn becuase of those reasons listed obviously doesn't know what they're trying to say.

If they are, however, calling you stubborn becuase you refuse to "lighten up" despite their wanting, then they are using it correctly. In this case, "let them suffer". It's never a bad thing to have another perspective at hand even if it's negative. This same group called the NT's usually wants you to "be true to yourself" unless of course you piss them off. Then it's a "lighten up" or whatever game then. Regardless of whatever people think, if you think you're doing fine and others say no, listen to yourself. Though that doesn't mean be naive, stupid, ignorant, etc.

I never be sad or meant to be negative if you think I am. Everytime when I feel upset, it makes people see I am negative because I was trying to clarify the situation of what makes me upset. Many Aspies get upset because of NT counterparts doesn't seem to respect their boundaries or the personality. I have been across few people who are avoidance without knowing my conditions. Some NTs can be a smartarse though.

NTs are likely to be stubborn too. It is commonly those who call you stubborn who are stubborn themselves. A person who is stubborn is not very likely to recognize their own stubbornness. People who disagree with you will call you stubborn.