What is inappropriate?

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This is what I am always wondered. Is it talking about skinny dipping and/or sexual is inappropriate? I know it depend on how well you know someone but it doesn't made a difference to someone I knew for long time.

I always get NTs and women say I am inappropriate when come to this topic and put me on a sexual harassment claim. I have no idea why, but I saw a thread earlier on this forum - 'aspergers and sexual harassment' claims that NT women see aspie males as creepy, stalker as a harasser compared to aspie females become a victim of it.

I can't understand why NTs complained to me about this even when they actually doing it! What is worse? Talking about it.........or.......actually doing it? I don't have sexual problems, if you all think I do BUT I am not. I am making mature adult conversation with people I know. Of course I am curious about skinny dipping because lot of people do it. I am 24 years old, and on a separate matter I am a virgin. This make me think how and why women hates me. This frustrates me socially.

I don't keep talking about it. I understand it can become creepy, for even similar way as NT males does. So, in this context why it always an aspie male get stereotyped so easily? I don't wear weird creepy clothes, I have good body because of my fitness and that. I only have mild ASD.

So I am wondering why I am always labelled as inappropriate compared it not for the NT people? Can't believe this is a driving force and influence for me to be a late bloomer! Urggh I am sick and tired of being pranced around and controlled by mauis!

I am so surprised that I am not getting any responses here. I thought this is a common problem with aspies?

I just wanted to know what is exactly going on with the society. Why it is inappropriate to talk about it compared to actually doing it. I find it so obvious that people are totally fine doing it or even talking about it with others, most likely NTs. Is this a stereotypical issue for being an Aspie that where NTs doesn't know what ASD is or doesn't understand it may appear to label us in wrong way? Hence the NTs find me discussing about it in wrong way, as a sexualised way which I have no intentions. Because they told me it not sexualised, then why it is sexualised from me?

I am frustrated. I thought we are humans after all, as one of animal kingdoms and thought is natural thing? I still don't get it.

I don't know what the obsession with skinny dipping is, I think its a pretty rare practice these days and largely a joke. However, as a rule of thumb, bringing up nudity or sexuality in mixed company is generally considered inappropriate, unless you're in a group of people you know closely as intimate friends. Not usually the case in the workplace.

For people with autism, who tend to have impaired empathetic abilities and clumsy social skills, its a good idea never to broach the subject, even if others around you do. They have subtle ways of signaling to each other when they're just kidding around that will not be so evident when you do it and will often be perceived as malevolent and creepy.

NTs can tell when one of their own is joking, they cannot always tell when one of US is joking.

I don't think they are joking on the matter. They told me they do it and that. Most of my friends are environmentalists and hippies, because I have similar interests as them. They do it and that, no matter who they around with. I seen them does it with other strangers compared to me a average friend to them is ruled out. They do it with other friends too. You know what hippies do? They are free and that.

What about charity-cause events? People from the public, even you don't know strip off and that? I have no obsession on this. But I felt less humane if I am not belong to the humanity of living life. I don't want to be a fake person like who have serious problem themselves like ferals and alcoholics etc. I enjoy being an environmentalist as much as other environmentalists.

I am trying to say here, I am very cautious talking about it. But NTs takes it too seriously like a sexualised thing. I have no intention as a sexual thing. Never heard a hippy does see that way. People go skinny dipping as non sexual things sees it sexual to an aspie male? Is it because I am one? There gotta be some explanation going on. It looks like a human race between aspies and NTs. Whose wins, other dies out.

I met few NTs would want to go skinny dipping with me because they are comfortable with themselves as much being with me. But the opportunity has not arisen yet because we just met as it is my first semester at uni here. And winter is coming too. Weather wise is cooling down.

In this context to my initial post, I may have learnt that some people take little things too seriously as a big problem. I meant too sensitive, as becoming their problem. Seeing things in wrong way may be also their problems?

I bet people on this website have no idea what this is on about nor how to respond to the experiences. I believe this is one of our common issues. Aspie males accused of hassers and aspie females being labelled as weakness

as a female i definitely agree with the association that women on the spectrum are typically on the receiving end of harassment. usually unaware. if you recognize you're doing something that is making others uncomfortable, stop. simple as that. we're both in our mid-20s, and i would suggest to you that discussing these topics be reserved for people you are extremely close to. it's hard sometimes for me to gauge closeness, especially since some questions i have for men are extremely inappropriate and they are JUST questions. so asking them to men that i have a close friendship with would cut down on any issues of making them uncomfortable, etc. or them reading into it anything other than what i'm saying. it's rough man. friendships, relationships, people. it's not easy.