What if I have cancer?

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I've recently noticed a mole on the side of my neck that's scabbed over. It's in a place where I don't often see, and others can't really see either because my hair is usually covering it. I'm worried because I don't know how long it's been like it for, it could have been months. Now what if it's grown cancerous inside and has already started to spread inside? I don't think I can cope with being ill. Now I've got to go through all that chemotherapy and be in hospital and lose my hair and be horribly ill, and miss out on life - again. I've been lonely most my life, and now I have a boyfriend and so I've found love and I'm finally getting out and about more and meeting different people. I'm only 25, never drank alcohol or smoked or sunbathed too much or anything like that, yet I go and get something like this. And another thing that's worrying me is I keep waking up in night sweats lately too. My back feels all clammy and my hair is all wet. It even does it on cold nights, and it's nothing to do with the room temperature.

I'm trying to get to see the doctor, but I can't get in this week, and I want it checked out THIS WEEK before I go on holiday, which is next week. Well even if I weren't going on holiday I still need it checked out THIS WEEK.
I am so unlucky. First I'm born with this f*****g AS s**t what has already ruined my life and my ability to make friends like normal people, and then I go and get cancer.

WHY AM I SO UNLUCKY????????? WHAT DID I DO TO DESERVE THIS?????????????????????????????

Even if it happens to be cancer---which it probably isn't---basal and squalous cell carcinomas are among the most curable types of cancer out there. Removal with a local anesthetic is all the treatment most need. Even melanoma is treatable, and survivable, if caught early, and you would have likely felt itching or been otherwise aware of that mole before seeing it.

Let me also say this---even if all of your worst fears come true, and that it is malignant melanoma that requires chemo---if your boyfriend uses that as a reason to break up, then he wasn't worth having as a boyfriend in the first place.

I wasn't saying my boyfriend might break up with me, I was saying that I've finally found happiness and I want to be happy, not be worried about health issues.

Go see a doctor.

It's probably not cancer. People get moles all the time.

try to take things one step at a time. call your doc and ask to be called to come in if there is a cancellation this week. other than that, give yourself 30 min. per day for worries, and if worry crops up at other times, make a note of it and delay the worry until the designated time. (don't pick right before bed or you might have trouble getting to sleep.)

here's hoping it's not cancer. keep us posted, joe.

Look up "skin cancer" and read about how to tell a normal spot or mole from a cancerous skin lesion. I also had a weird spot that grew on the side of my face and I looked it up and it turned out to just be a normal non-cancerous spot called "keratoma". Websites do give you specific instructions on how to tell if a spot is indeed cancerous or not, plus they show you photos to compare. Hopefully this will give you some peace of mind till you can get it checked by the doctor!

http://www.webmd.com/melanoma-skin-canc ... and-cancer

Yep...these folks have the right idea.

Don't panic until you have a reason to panic.

I actually have quite a few moles (though, fortunately, they don't show too much). If I would worry about every mole, I'd be in a total panic 24/7!

OP, you started the thread by detailing the very worst case scenario. Maybe balance that by detailing the best case scenario now? What if it isn't?

As someone who has been there, I can sincerely tell you that cancer is not automatically the end of the world/self/life/joy/health/the worst thing that could ever happen/incurable/ruins your life/turns you into an invalid.. in truth, it gave me a new outlook on life that led to the best years of my life in significant ways, and this is not uncommon amongst the survivors. You learn to value people, relationships, life itself in new ways.

I hope you will find that your fears are groundless, and move on from this upset.

I have various moles, etc. that look cancerous to me but the doctor said they were OK.

Thanks for replying and caring.

It's just that ever since I read somewhere that 1 in 3 people experience cancer of some sort in their lives, it kind of made me into a cancer hypochondriac because I didn't think cancer was that common.

Do yourself a favor:

See a doctor. Get rid of those fears by seeing the doctor.