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I feel like I am so depressed, I'm finally not anxious anymore.

I have a ridiculous amount of things on my plate. And, then another two ridiculously full plates are stacked on top of that one...

But, all I want to do is sit and do nothing. I just want it all to go away.

I feel that way quite often myself. The only thing keeping me going at the moment is the fact that I have someone who depends on me for everything.

Yeah, that's the kind of thing helping me, too. Those connections matter.

Why do you feel this way?

Do you feel like you're overwhelmed raising your kids? You've mentioned that your husband travels quite a bit.

You mentioned that you have one child on the Spectrum--that could be overwhelming.

Do you feel a lack of friends/support? Do you feel like you're isolated without assistance?

Do you live near your parents, or your husband's parents?

Yes, I'm overwhelmed. I've got way too much on my plate right now.

My husband has been away for 3.5 weeks. One more week and he will be home for a few days.

I do have a child on the spectrum, but he hasn't really been much of an issue lately. He's a bit of a drama king...but I have effective tools for handling him. I actually observed his class today and it really helped me to realize how pretty normal he is. I mean, maybe not normal, but not one of the kids with the most frequent, pressing issues...he handles himself pretty independently. There is a good working system for him wherever he goes and he can self-advocate.

Parenting alone for weeks on end is daunting, though. Even without high needs kids. There is something less draining about parenting when there is another human being sharing the responsibility with you. By myself, it's like I have a pitcher that I keep pouring from...and I've been dry for awhile now....

I do feel somewhat isolated. I have lots of family support, but my parents are out of town and my brother and his family are packing up to move this weekend. My in-laws who also help a lot have a special thing going on this week. ...so, I have less help than usual right now. But, that's temporary. It's good to remember that.

I've got several hours of homework to finish tonight and my house is a huge, major disaster....

You know what?

I would be overwhelmed, too, if I had that much cleaning to do.

Quite understandable.

Can you recruit your kids to help out just a little bit?

Oh, I completely do... I'm really anal about my kids cleaning up their own messes and learning practical life skills in general.

However, you should know that it is actually *more* difficult having them help. Well, that's true for my daughter at least.

I'm not sure how high a priority to put on everything, though. Right now, the house is pretty low priority (aside from dishes and laundry), because it can wait longer than work responsibilities and homework, etc. But, having it messy really affects all of us.

Anyway, it is nice to hear some validation though. Life does feel kind of overwhelming right now.

I'm sure you've experienced being overwhelmed before.

Your past experience will help you this time, I believe.

You will prevail, for you have always prevailed.

Yes, I will. Thank you.