Being physically compared

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I've had a long life struggle with body image. Not all of it is my fault. My aunt saw me with my hair down and compared me to somebody who is the last person that I think any woman would want to be compared to.

She even compared me to this dude in front of my face. I will not tell who she compared me to, but if you want to know please message me.

Hint: A celebrity who is 50 freaking 5 years old

I have a poor body image issue as well, so I know how you feel, but I wouldn't take comparisons to famous people seriously though. At one time my friend compared me to Fabio Cannavaro

It made me realise that it's all down to two things - association and intention. Like in the above example the context was that he wanted me to feel better about myself and he thought comparing me to a handsome bloke would improve my confidence around the ladies. So you have to understand in what context the comparison was being made. Sometimes mean people who see others with a poor body image, often compare them to someone they know will make the person feel worse about themselves. I don't know if this was the case with your aunt, but it could be. I've had that same thing happen plenty of times too. So depending on the intention and how the person feels about you, the person they're comparing you to will differ.

And association just means that celebrities are the easiest people to compare one another to due to their general popularity. We often see glimpses of celebs in each other, because their fame gives us the impression that we are familiar with them, and we assume the person we are making the comparison with, will also know who the celeb is. So in a way we all feel familiar with a celeb. You won't often find someone compare another person to his cousins' daughters' fiance. Since the other person is probably unfamiliar with who that is.

So in short, don't feel upset since these comparisons, although sometimes in rare circumstances can mean you look exactly like a well known person, but generally they are based on what's in mind of the person who made the comments. So don't take insults personally, since they often don't mean a thing. A person can insult a "beauty queen" if they really want to, can't they?