Joined: 9 Dec 2005 Age: 39 Gender: Male Posts: 1,491 Location: Cambridge
29 Mar 2007, 6:29 pm
I'm really, really, REALLY sick of people who don't understand me reacting by ignoring me until I get upset and give up. It takes a lot for me to build up the courage to reach out to people, so when it gets stomped on it just makes it even harder next time. And ensures at least a month of sulk. But I don't have the confidence to say "hey! LISTEN TO MEEEEEEEE!". Should I just give up?
Joined: 15 Dec 2006 Age: 41 Gender: Male Posts: 3,545
29 Mar 2007, 6:35 pm
violentcloud wrote:
Should I just give up?
No. You shouldn't take a negative reaction from others to be definitively indicative of a problem with you. It could be a problem with those that have ignored you. Don't give up, since you simply may not have met people that don't have that problem, whatever it may be.
Joined: 4 Mar 2007 Gender: Male Posts: 319 Location: Texas
29 Mar 2007, 6:38 pm
violentcloud wrote:
I'm really, really, REALLY sick of people who don't understand me reacting by ignoring me until I get upset and give up. It takes a lot for me to build up the courage to reach out to people, so when it gets stomped on it just makes it even harder next time. And ensures at least a month of sulk. But I don't have the confidence to say "hey! LISTEN TO MEEEEEEEE!". Should I just give up?
What was that? I am sorry I wasn't paying attention, what did you say?
p.s. f**k them if they cannot take a joke, find the ones who do listen and stick with them.
Joined: 20 Dec 2006 Age: 51 Gender: Female Posts: 8,601 Location: Hants, Uk
29 Mar 2007, 7:35 pm
shadexiii wrote:
violentcloud wrote:
Should I just give up?
No. You shouldn't take a negative reaction from others to be definitively indicative of a problem with you. It could be a problem with those that have ignored you. Don't give up, since you simply may not have met people that don't have that problem, whatever it may be.
I agree with Shade...don't give up. It is a real cliche but true...you don't know what might be around the corner and what you might miss out on if you close your eyes to it all.
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Joined: 9 Dec 2005 Age: 39 Gender: Male Posts: 1,491 Location: Cambridge
29 Mar 2007, 7:43 pm
calandale wrote:
Pretty much. These aren't going to be your friends. You might find uses for them, but you need more.
Yeah, but it's not just a few people - it's everyone I've tried to get on with since my 'friends' did their little stab-in-the-back-with-many-sharp-knives routine. I've generally lost my ability to connect with other people somehow
Me too. At least in real life. I have to deal with this all the time. Just know that there is better. Use what you need out of these people, but know that they aren't your friends. Not really. Keep waiting. Better will eventually come along again.