Absolutely furious and need to calm down and deal smartly

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I think my husband is cheating on me again. Before anybody brings up you know who, that was one time in 28 years and he's done this a lot in the past. I also don't put up with it and I do weigh the whole thing out and put it in perpsective so sometimes I blow it off and give him a lot of s**t for it and other times I've almost left and I've made his life hell. He doesn't do it all that much and I thought we were past all that but apparantly not. He hasn't done anything like this in over 15 years and I'm way too old to be having to deal with something like this. I'm also not divorcing him and having to start out again at my age. No way. Neither he nor that fat waste of trashy space is going to mess up my life! Oh, hell no.

He's messing around with this ho who lives with my BIL and MIL at the lake and she brought her 4yo who she doesn't even know who the daddy is. She's also fat, ugly, a meth head, and dumb as a rock to boot. She's slept with my BIL and my oldest son as well when he lived there. She's a ho. She's Crazy Don's cousin and that whole family is trash. Crazy Don is one of my son's best friends and even though he's a little off, he's a good guy.

I've suspected this for a while, because of how my husband is acting lately. He's also having to stay there with my BIL and MIL because he has no car so no way to work. He either drives the Caddy there or gets a ride to work from somebody who works with him. We live too far out to get a ride from here and he can't bring the Caddy home because it's their only car there.

I'm going to find out for sure and when I do, that b***h will be so sorry she ever even looked at my man sideways. She has no clue the level of crazy she has bitten off here. For the record, I am not going to kill her. Not at all. I may not even lay hands on that fat piece of white trash whore, but I will make sure she was sorry she was ever born. And he's not getting out of this one easy either. You would think he would know better than this, what with living with me for 29 years and all, but I guess he mistakenly thought he could outsmart me. Wrong again. And she has absolutely no clue what she may very well have gotten herself into. If she has messed around with my man then she has honestly made the biggest mistake of her sad, pathetic life.

He has no clue I suspect this, and that is how it's staying. I'll find out more by laying back and being sneaky. This s**t's gonna stop though. It's seriously gonna stop.

i hope nothing is going on. if it is, i'm very sorry about that. good for you for taking time to get calm.

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. I wish words were adequate to my thoughts and feelings, but know that I am wishing you well and hoping you are able to resolve this in your favor.
Good luck and stay safe.

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What???

sometimes one has to cut one's losses, as painful as it is, in order to heal. I hope you have found a good lawyer.

That's tough. I'm sorry to hear about this. I think the best thing to do is divorce him and get yourself out of this mess. You're way too good for him and you don't deserve this. Hope everything gets better soon, hugs to you OOM

Just remember the longer you stand by and let it happen, the more comfortable he'll get doing it, and he'll keep doing it.

I haven't been married 29 years but I usually embrace once a cheater, always a cheater. Once someone has shown they don't respect a monogamous relationship I don't really believe they can change.

Sorry it had to happen with such a sh***y person too

He's just doing this randomly in all sorts of threads. I don't think it means anything.

Sorry to hear that you are going through this. I hope it turns out not to be what you think it is.

I am not a cheater and I don't understand people who are, so I wouldn't know what to expect next. Whatever happens, I hope you find some peace.

I'm not leaving him, and I do know he loves me, and trust me I'm not taking this lying down. Been there, done that with the first one. When he does something like this he goes though living hell for a good bit of time after. If you don't think I can make his life hell you really underestimate me and kinda upset me lol.

He does it because he's stupid about s**t like this. Because some other chick gives him the eye he thinks he needs to go after her. Don't worry, he's going to get his and she will get hers too.

sometimes testosterone is a downer.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Leave him.

Oh, it can be. I don't know why he's so damned and determined to do this every so often. Either way, it's him thats going to be in a world of hurt over it. I tell you one thing though, he damned sure ain't winning this one!

BTW, I sent you a FB message. The bunny comment was supposed to be a compliment and also make you laugh. I see that it didn't and I'm sorry. I'll try to explain it better.

As for testosterone, he's acting like he's got way more of it than he does. He doesn't have balls big enough to pull this s**t off with me and get away with it. THe strange part of it is, he knows exactly what he's in for too.

Well, once a cheater like the way he cheats then always a cheater. It's not true for every time though. Some people just do it once when their asshat significant others push them into it.

But I'm not leaving him. Hell no! I'm 51 years old and not interested in finding somebody else and all that. I'd have to get a haircut and go out and all kinds of things I'm too old to care about doing now. He's gonna straighten his ass up is whats gonna happen. Also, that b***h is about to be gone from the lake. I've got my plan and it's in motion. And I'm not physically hurting anybody this time either.

I can be hard to figure out, I know. no problem as for your hubby, ever hear the phrase "middle-aged crazy"? it is his way to re-assert his masculinity, even if it is subconscious. google it. AKA "male climactic." it is why so many fifty-something guys get that hair transplant, flashy red sports car, take up with the local tramp etc.
p.s., you don't look like you need a haircut anytime soon

Yeah, midlife crisis. He doesn't get to be very masculine around me unless I need something heavy moved or something gross taken care of. He seems to like it that way though.

As for my hair, a lady can only wear long hair for a certain amount of time because after a certain age she starts looking like she's a cougar, a pentecostal or trying too hard.