I hate dealing with my mom's emotions

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She seems to be overly emotional and tense all the time. It's driving me crazy, especially when I'm driving. I hate driving with her because she's always way too tense and she gives bad instructions. It's painful to be around. I try my best to ignore her, but she doesn't like that. I wish she would just relax. When she talks to me about certain things she often seems angry. I do listen, but I emotionally distance myself. She gets even more mad. I just can't deal with her s**t.

DK;

Has she always been like this or its only recently? Do you still live at home?

If you dig around in older threads, if your search function will work (if not one person suggested to me you can search wrongplanet on google by putting- site: wrongplanet.net X (whatever your searching for),

many people have to deal with toxic family and try to enforce firm boundaries but that's really hard if your parents are your main support financially.

My wife always gets pissed when I drive. I think, personally, that your mother might have some anxiety issues to deal with.

I wish you both could have some sort of dialogue. You're over 18 now, and not a kid. I think it would be fair if your mother would be an equal partner with you in at least some things.

At least you're driving! I didn't accomplish that until I was 37!

Now...apply to that Optician school, Milady!

It seems to me it's my mom who has trouble dealing with *my* emotions. I feel that I can't really talk to her when I'm worried, depressed or upset, because, as she told me herself, that will only make her upset and nothing good will come out of it ever. She doesn't like telling me things she knows will make me upset so I should know not to do the same. Lately she notices stuff and asks what's wrong, and I tell her I'm just tired. which is true enough. Except I'm not just physically tired, but tired of a society that makes me feel like I'm worthless and nothing but a burden who should be locked in a gas chamber unless I'm somehow cured of my "disease".