when people think they're mature but they're just rude

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[2:31:33 PM] *** you are the definition of a messed up kid most likely a victim of alcohol and raised poorly ***

This was said to me by a guy who thinks he knows everything in his 20s (I am 15.)

I just... have such a mind-ache right now.
I am not in the mood to have another conversation with a condescending person for feeling out of place and being prescribed psychiatric medications.

The annoying thing is, this conversation ended months ago, and he just now messaged me this.

I'm really not his business at this point, and even if I was, he stopped messaging me months ago because he didn't want to feel guilty about me "ruining my life."

I talk to someone for 2 days, and they suddenly think it's their job to say these things to me, disappear, and come back months later for no apparent reason in order to continue it.

The moral of this story is, 9 times out of 10, you can't trust people you meet on Garry's Mod, and probably 10 times out of 10, if they're legally an adult and playing Garry's Mod, you really just shouldn't talk to them at all.

There are many different ways to measure the mind. Age isn't one them.
I've met people of many different ages, races, sexuality, etc. All of them have the potential to be nice or mean.
A few years ago I was a book-smart jerk. Then I had some hard lessons. I made some mistakes and my potential future shifted drastically. It also made me a wiser person. But I would never call myself "mature". I rediscovered the child in my heart; wonder, excitement, laughter, a self-image untainted by the opinions of others. The things that we too-often sacrifice for "success".
Currently, I'm somewhere between 20 and 30. I've had a lot of people look down on me and even insult me for my "lack of maturity". Frankly I suspect they're jealous of my genuine happiness. Don't let other people tell you how to feel. Don't let other people tell you what should make you happy. It's an easy trap to fall into and it's hard to get back out. I suggest you (not you specifically, but in general) offer people a measure of tolerance and respect. If they react poorly, that is on them and you can wipe your hands of them knowing that you tried. You might have to get past a few jerks before you find decent people, but it is up to you to make that effort. Good luck on your end

You're hurting because you agree with him. And you're hurting because you think you're stuck with it. And you're hurting because you agree with him and decide it's something to feel bad about.
Read this until you understand, and then once more. Yes, really.

Don't give anyone authority over your opinions and feelings. You need to learn to decide what (not) to agree with.

If you actually have some things you're not happy with, you can develop yourself (in whatever way) so that you get a new perspective of life.

Most importantly you need to learn to disregard people's opinions in online games.
People there talk so much trash, it's ridiculous... it's like their letout for antisocial steam or something.

What Earthling says is absolutely right, so do take his/her advice.

People go to games forums to play games (presumably), they're not the place to seek or offer personal advice of the kind you describe.

If you want to discuss difficult and painful issues in your life, Wrong Planet and other autism-specific sites are the place to do it, either on forums like this or via pm. There are some incredibly kind and empathetic people on WP who would be only too glad to chat with you.