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I have been having trouble with my parents especially with my mother. She thinks that she in control of my every thoughts, words and deeds. She takes away everything even my money and leaves with me with little. She even assaulted me with a spatula several weeks ago. She even has my therapists against me. Next year (knock on wood) I will be graduating from my University with a Bachelors in Military History. I said that I wanted to move to Nevada because I want to be far away from her. Not only she threatened to cut me off from the will she threatened to cut me off of everything. She even threatened to cut me off from communicating from her. I really need your opinion on this.

I sense that there's something wrong with your mother.

I wish I were there to really evaluate the situation.

I really hope your mother truly isn't like this.

What is provoking her to threaten to cut you out of the will? (note: I'm not assuming you're provoking her).

consider talking to her with your therapist present. let her know, in calm, sensible words, that you're an adult, and that you have to start working and living on your own to finish growing up, that that is the way of the world, and that you'd like to have a friendly relationship with her, but that you have to become independent. IF you can say these things calmly, the therapist is likely to agree - for that is the way of the world. maybe you and your mother can this way part in a less hateful spirit.

My mother said something rather interesting. We were discussing my school, and she said she would determine whether I could move out. I just pretended that I did not heard that part and went to my room. But I said to myself, she is going to determine my future. Do I get any word in this?

How exactly is she going to keep you from moving out? If you are an adult and over 21 and not under her legal guardianship for some reason, then you can walk out that door at any time and all she can do is be mad and not talk to you or give you any money. Be sure you can fend for yourself before you leave though. My mother was controlling like that too and I had to achieve escape velocity and stand up for myself with her in my teens. it was hard but she really didn't have a leg to stand on as it turns out. I only wanted normal things and she was f*****g insane.

I do want to ask how you are going to make a living with a degree in military history though. Are you going to teach or join the military or what? I'm asking because if you can't support yourself then you may be stuck there with her.

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My mother is at it again. My brother came over to the house to visit on Sunday. He gave her some money to fix the floor. Then she had the nerve to rub it in my face. She said "how wonderful your brother is giving me money. I pretended that I did not hear that comment but that extremely hurt. She knows I do not have anything because she has banned me from working. She is a <bleep>! !! !

My mother really crossed over the line. All my therapists including the receptionists in the office knows about the spats my parents and I are going through. Could I sue the therapist office for spreading my case around office our problems?

I would say you would have a difficult time suing. But talk to a lawyer--see what he/she says.

You'll have to prove it.

Like I said: talk to a lawyer. He'll know the burden of proof better than I.

You probably won't be able to do this on your own.

You need to find any job you can and start putting the money in the bank asap. I know that some parents are our worst enemies, that's what it was like for me. For me, getting away meant marrying the first idiot that came along and I endured it for 4 years so that I could be away from them. Eventually that ended, thankfully, by then I had a job that paid a bit better and got myself my own apartment. While I had to work sometimes 60-80 hours a week to keep my apartment and car, it was worth every single minute as I had a peace that I had NEVER had at home, in fact, never again since I remarried.

There is nothing like being on your own. It might be tough, but I promise you the reward of having peace will more than make up for the fact that you'll have to work a bit harder for a while, be a little more thrifty, etc.

Good luck!