I Feel Like I'm a Mess

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I feel like I'm a mess lately. A lot of things in my life right now have been good, but the problem is I can't enjoy them and I feel so awful all the time. I'm a junior in college right now and just switched my major to art and I really like art, which is why I chose that. I finally got up the courage to join a club at school and the people there seem really nice. There's also this guy I met who's really nice and we have a lot in common. He's interested in dating me and though I've never dated anyone before, I find myself intrigued by him and maybe want to try dating him.
Anyways, I have these awesome things in my life right now, trouble is my mood has been up and down lately. One day, I'll feel so good and brave about doing these things, and the next day I'll be so afraid to pursue them and wonder why I even bothered trying. I've been putting off homework and a lot of things till the very last minute a lot and also just skipping things because I get really nervous or worried that I'll mess them up when I think about doing them. I've been feeling this way for months now, but I feel like it's escalated as of late. I even skipped class today for the first time ever because I felt so sad and awful this morning. I've only just realized I had Asperger's a month or two ago and I think I might have other mental illnesses too, but I haven't gone to a doctor about them yet. I haven't even told anyone that I've been dealing with these things, but I feel like I should so they can understand me better. I'm just kind of afraid to share this with my parents because my uncle has schizophrenia and is on disability and my dad is always saying things about him and other people how they should just go to work and do something instead of sitting around all day. I don't think he really understands what people with mental illnesses go through. It also makes me really sad and anxious because all of my cousins around the same age as me right now are flourishing. They have all these friends, amazing internships, graduating early, and I'm just sitting here, a complete mess. My family already thinks I'm a lazy weirdo because I don't have any friends and pretty much spend all my time at home watching tv and youtube, not to mention the fact that I've never had a real job because the thought of having a job makes me really anxious, and I guess I'm afraid of what they'll think if I tell them I have Asperger's or other things. I guess I just need someone to talk to or help me out because I feel so lost.

I don't think you're in that bad a shape.

You just have to organize yourself better.

First, have you sought the advice of a medical professional?

He or she may ask you about your diet, your sleeping habits, your reproductive cycle, the level of stress you've been under, how much exercise you get, and whether or not you've been self-medicating (even if it's just aspirin or vitamins).

(University was stressful enough for me without any social involvements. Getting enough of the right foods was always an issue. Sleep? Only during lectures!)

Please, see a doctor, if only to ease you mind regarding any medical issues you may or may not have.