My repeated vow to move to Los Angeles

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There's just something I need to say right now. I tend to repeat my telling my friends that I will move to Los Angeles (and maybe change my name and not tell my family where in L.A. I live), and that irritates some people.

Maybe it's just the Aspie in me doing this, but it makes me more determined than ever. Despite CA's problems lately, I have made it clear that this is my destiny, that I never come back to my native Seattle, NOT even to visit. This is my final wish, and I hope with all my might, it WILL come true..... even if it means saying goodbye to those I have known for so many years in Washington state. Any kind words from you guys to me on this?

As a sidenote..... what will you say to me when I post that I am officially an CA and Los Angeles resident?

Is it just a tendency of mine to repeat myself?

Sorry to post this again, but why is it that I want to talk about my moving to Los Angeles to the point of aggravating many people? Is it because I am determined to move there, in spite of many difficulties?

I have decided that I WILL legally change my name upon the move, and NEVER return to to my native Washington state again..... any other advice and encouragement, go ahead and post it.

Go for it if it's what you want.

I've thought about doing the same thing when I get out of college, not telling my family where I'm going and then just disappear or possibly keep some contact with them. There's too much bad memory here in Iowa. Strange enough, I've thought about moving out to Seattle and the Pacific Northwest.

I sometimes feel the same way. Ironically, I live in Los Angeles, but often have desires to just up and leave and go to New York or Vegas, London, and just disappear and never tell anyone where I am going. I like the anonymity of it and that you can just decide wherever you want to go and start fresh.

I recommend you just coming out to LA and settling in. I don't think you will miss Seattle one bit. LA is like its own little country in some ways- so much going on you never get bored. I also think that it would be very easy to come to LA and reinvent yourself and be whoever you want to be. There are so many people here from all walks of life, no one is really looked at as "unusual". Just be sure that you have enough money to come out here. It is an expensive city and if you do not want to deal with the hassle of roommates you will have to get a job lined up as well as find an area that you are comfortable living in. There are areas in the valley that are cheaper than if you wanted to live in Beverly Hills or in West LA. Hope this helps, let us know when you have made it out to LA!!

^ Thank you. Any other advice from anyone else?

I live in Los Angeles so we could hang out if you came here.

LA is a nightmare. You have deal with traffic at all of the day and the night. Im planning to leave LA because want to leave from overbearing parents and LA is going straight down the toilet every year

We have discussed this. It probably aggrivates people because you keep saying it but are doing nothing to make it happen. We even talked about the things you should do on FB. Finding a job was the first thing and I found you several things to go look at. Entry level, no skill things. You didn't want to because you said somebody was going to find you a job tailor made to you. Have they found it yet? We talked about what part of LA, and how much rent would be and you didn't know anything about that and I got you some information and you didn't like it.

I think what irritates people is not that you keep saying it, but that you keep saying it like it's going to happen while doing absolutely nothing to make it come about and when you are given suggestions about how to make it happen, or someone tries to get into a real world conversation with you about real world issues about moving there, you blow it off and go right back into the fantasy conversation of moving to LA and getting married in Dodger stadium and this and that.

I'm not trying to be mean, I've actually tried to help you make it happen several times. However, it's either a daydream which is something you want to happen and wish would happen and enjoy thinking about happening but you know it probably never will, or it's a plan which is something you work on bringing about by doing things to make it happen rather than just making a few calls or going to a few appointments and waiting for it to fall into your lap - you actually go out and do what has to be done to cause it, even though that probably entails doing things you don't enjoy like working at a job you don't much like. It's fine to have a daydream and it's fine if this is a daydream, but when you keep insisting that it's what you are going to do, while having no concrete notion of how you are going to do it, nor of how you are going to actually live and take care of yourself when you get there, that is when people get annoyed.

So, I do wish you luck in making this happen, and I'll gladly help you a lot if you need me to, so you can do this. But you have to do things for it to happen. Waiting for it to happen on it's own won't do anything and you will still be in the same spot you are in now in a few years just like you are still in it now and have been saying this since I've met you.

Not being harsh, but you asked the question so I'm answering it.

Meh. I don't know if I can add anything to this thread I haven't posted in your other threads before. I think it's counter productive to worry about what anyone thinks about it other than you. The move is for you, not for them, not for us, how anyone feels about it shouldn't matter except for you.

It's just a matter of getting up and doing it, shrug off the anxiety about moving and do it.. I can't really do much but echo what oom already said.

*sigh* Well, excuse me. I'm just slowly working my own way towards the dream, even if it may deviate from what you guys want me to do.

@OOM: I'm not trying to sit and wait, it's more like gathering up the resources and maybe even some of the courage I need to move there.

I moved all the way across the country--first I found a job--stayed with a co-worker while I looked for a place to live. After locating a small apartment within walking distance to work, I had my parents ship all my stuff via UPS.

I think Los Angeles is a great place to live.

Agreed.

It won't take that much courage to start working now where you are and saving money. Nothing will be changing yet. I'm not being mean to you, I'm talking to you like a mom here. If you can't get the courage to get a job while still living at home I don't see you getting it to move and be completely on your own.

I'm here for you for real. You know how to reach me and I'll help you find a job, budget and save, I'll talk to you every day and boost your confidence so you can keep going to work. I'll listen to you, give you support and advice, all that. But doing it is the only way you'll ever achieve your dream.

I wasn't bitching at you and I do try to light a fire under you, but you did ask the question why its annoying.

So OK. What are you doing now to gather resources? Also what are your plans to support yourself once you are there? Its very expensive to live there so you will need a decent income.

I'm willing to help you. Plus I know what I'm doing and have moved many times, once to another part of the country. I'm just being real. You want to get there before you turn 50 don't you? You are almost 30 now and if you want to do this its time to s**t or get off the can. Let me help you. Hit me up anytime and I'll show you what to do, help you find what you need to get this done, and hold your hand every step of the way. But you are the only one who can actually make it happen. You have a great resource right here in me. Use that. Or don't. Its up to you.

You are a good kid and I want to see you succeed and am very willing to help. But you have to do the heavy lifting and it won't always be easy or fun. But you do have somebody in your corner which is more than lots of people have, and they end up getting it done. Just let me know. I don't think your folks are helpful and I'd damn sure want somebody there for my kid if he needed it so that's what I'm trying to do for you.

So what have you got done since we last talked?

^ I'll tell ya via PM.