So much negativity :(

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There is so much negativity on this site, I don't enjoy being on here anymore like I used to. Everywhere I go I just see people fighting, so many negative threads, most people just seem so unhappy and that makes me feel unhappy

Sry Catlover.

wish things were better for everybody

I actually thought things have kind of lightened up around here for a change since last month. Hope you can see that though.

Yes, it can get pretty negative here. But it's nowhere near as bad as some forums I've frequented on the internet. My advice to you is to steer clear of the most negative forums on WP. (You know the ones.) I don't post too much, these days, and will probably stop posting on WP altogether, soon. Being here has given my some insight into my life, but it's time to move on.

Hugs

We're working on trying to promote more positivity.

I just wanted to express my appreciation to everyone who makes an effort to keep this a positive and supportive place... It means a lot.

A lot of people here have experienced or are still experiencing all kinds of negative things, many of us have depression and anxiety, and we're all living in a very negative world where society doesn't accept us for being who we are, so it's not really surprising that we're not exactly all a bunch of Pollyannas around here.

Things will get better soon CL. Stick with it.

I hate negativity, as well. But I try and stick around, because it's my nature really. Stay strong, OP.....

Whereas negativity seems to run rampant here, there is a lot of positive threads posted also.

Whilst I'm sure that's true you've got to account for cultural differences etc, because not everyone here
is nor thinks,' Americano. There aren't many British mods to even this out either.

I think the only way to dispel ‘negative’ threads is to look closer at them in more
detail. Like who’s enjoying inciting hate to set the tone on themselves.
If not, then maybe rethink who’s in charge. (set some boundaries).

If the Mods are autistic, then why are they siding with some more than others and subsequently abolishing people by their own inactive demeanours?

There are bound to be hate threads stirred up by some who don’t always get the attention on the other threads but the lack of concierge is no ones fault.
I personally believe that this is more to do with age discrimination. Often racially disguised.

I’ve noticed that when some mods have been quoted with an opinion they get tactically involved with others members ‘administerial’ behaviour when no ones being off really, they just want to get their point across.(or vent without seeming intrusive).

Also, because they either can’t take the persons point of view, or become biased to it, then that user has no chance.

Freedom of expression is quite commonplace in modern society. Online or off.

I think people have different opinions so we will clash sometimes and it can get heated but most of the time I find people are friendly here.

My beef is not with negativity, but complacency.

I think it's perfectly okay to say "I'm not okay" or "It feels like everything is crumbling around me".

What I don't understand is going on the internet and posting a thread like that and then shooting down all attempts to help.

It's the negative echo chamber that is so antithetical to my values. I can't stand it. I can't stand complaining coupled with no desire to improve the situation. Complaining for the sake of complaining. That kind of negativity is toxic.

If that's the purpose of the haven, then I've misunderstood. It's very difficult for autistic people then to participate if the unwritten rules are that more comprehensive.

Sometimes, it's not that easy to word yourself in a considerate way either. And some people might need to hear "get your s**t together, only you can fix the mess you're in" because they genuinely believe that just because they have autism, they can sit in the house and have self pity and then magically people will come knock on their door with a silver bullet solution to all their problems.

This bothers me, because I want to help people.

That's because I spent 10 years in a slump. Autism was a very convenient excuse to remain in stagnation. Because I don't want even my worst enemy to experience that, I want to drag the whiners out of their slump. Some times, I might not word myself in the most considerate way, which I then find out after the fact.