Not sure how I feel about this

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I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I kind of need an outsider's view on this. Earlier this year I had been looking for a job since I'm no longer in school. I had found a position at Starbucks and considered going for it. Mind you, I've been living with mom and felt it was time for me to grow up. Unfortunately, my mom did not see it like that. She actually got angry with me and told me it was pointless considering:
1) I only have a high school degree with absolutely no work experience
2) Working just to meet people and not for a paycheck is stupid (where did that come from?)
3) I live at home with a mother whose more than willing to take care of me and tolerate my idiosyncrasies related to my autism (she constantly reminds me of this every time I do something bad according to her)
4) If I really wanted to work, go to school, etc. I have to be a doctor, lawyer, etc. (at this point I'm thinking 'what does all this have to do with anything?)
5) The list of possible interview questions to be asked (that I found on an actual job prep website) is out of date
Since that incident, I noticed she wasn't as affectionate with me and instead of calling me by my real name she would address me as 'kid' (she'd called me that every time she got upset with me until I told her to stop). On top of that, nearly every conversation we had after that was some how related to the topic of spoiled ungrateful people.
After a while, I felt so bad about making her angry that I dropped the whole thing all together.
Fast forward to now, I moved to a new apartment in far more relaxed environment. My mom and I were talking and she out of the blue asked me if I wanted to work. Whether or not I did was up to me, but it'd be nice if I got to meet people and learn about the importance of saving money. But mostly highlighting the idea of making friends. I didn't say much about it, but now I'm confused. When I brought it up, you got angry. When you spew out the same idea it's better? I'm wondering if I really am being overly sensitive like she often tells me every time something bothers me or is there really something not right about this.

Maybe she changed her mind.

Could be. Still find it weird though.

Not knowing anything about you or your Mother, this is just a blind guess, but maybe your Mother likes looking after you?, maybe she doesn't want you to "grow up" but to be her Kid that she can look after. The thought of losing this role possibly made her emotionally angry, but when she calmed down, she realised this was in your best interests and she is glad for you.