Resentment I cannot express to anyone IRL

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I have resentment, but there is no outlet in real life except for my mental health professionals, who can only do so much. I have tried repeatedly to resolve the cause of the resentment, but as time goes on I feel increasingly helpless, causing the resentment to simmer.

There are many ways to let out your anger, such as screaming into a pillow, calling a relative or ranting on WP. Do you have any relatives that you could talk to?
Your username is a Romanian word, are you from the same country as me?

What do you feel resentful about?

Cockroach96,

Thanks, but I am not from Romania. I actually got this username from Latin, though I know the word is also Romanian.

The subject is private and I doubt I would get much in the way of a satisfactory response, not to be personal. The subject is something the vast majority of people don't understand very well.

What sucks is that I'm fairly close to my parents and yet a topic like this is completely off limits. At the same time, everyone I have spoken to in the past about the subject has made clear to me that they would provide no support to resolving the cause of my resentment. If I cannot do it alone, it will never be resolved. I thought I could do it, but it's starting to look like I can't.

I feel resentment because society bears at least some of the responsibility for this situation and because of the lack of any other soul who is willing to provide even the smallest material support.

I understand the feeling of simmering resentment. I can only tell you what helps me; it may not be of help to you, but maybe it will.

I move on with my life if there doesn't seem to be any way to resolve or make situations better. This is not an easy task at all. I can feel very misanthropic, due to how difficult it is for me to get along with others. It is such a struggle, that it seems not to be worth the effort. I am going to try a different approach -- it may not work, but my current lifestyle isn't functional enough for me to keep trying.

I want to enjoy life and be productive, constructive, and be a positive influence. I can't do that if I am so miserable that it makes me hate everyone. It is up to me to find a lifestyle that will support my needs and wants. I've decided to try visiting another country for a while, and join a volunteer work program. I am learning a new language just to find out if I can find somewhere I fit in, or at least find a place I don't want to commit suicide/homicide, or both. I am a proactive problem solver, but sometimes situations are just too broken to continue to patch up. Similar to a leaky ship -- sometimes it is so damaged that you have to just scrap the whole thing and start over. Yep, it sucks, but the longer you wait, and keep trying the same things to fix conflicts, the more time you lose to a nonfunctional life.

Oh, that saying "sink or swim" fits in here I think. I choose to swim. I hope you do too. I also hope you don't have a water phobia, or that idiom is an unfortunate choice for me to have used.

IgA,

I cannot ignore the problem because it pushes itself into my life at every moment. The one solution to the problem is what I so resent society for withholding. I cannot flee from it, I cannot do something else and get away from it, because everywhere I go the problem comes with me.

Sorry I couldn't be of help. I was just reasoning for myself, since my lack of ability to socalize causes a lot of conflicts where I live currently, maybe if I move to where 'socalizing' isn't such a large focus in society, I might get along better. My problem with socalizing won't disappear, but if the community doesn't treat me bad because of it, the conflicts won't be such a hinderance to my goals in life. My idea may not work, but I want to try it anyway.

Well, on my trip to see my parents thus far, my resentment and bitterness and caged anger have interfered greatly. I have refused to participate in most activities, including "fun" activities. I refused para-sailing, pretending the refusal was from fear, when it rather was from not wanting my parents to pay for me to para-sail.

I don't think I can do an awful lot with my parents and I'm probably going to be a drag most of the week. I am neither willing nor able to give up my resentment, so I wonder if this trip was even worth it.

Do I owe my parents an explanation for what's happening, at least to say I am bitter and resentful, even as I keep concealed the reason?

To clarify, my resentment is not necessarily directed towards my parents, but my resentment and bitterness sometimes paralyze me.

I have done very little with my parents here other than lie in bed most of the day. As I do this, I nurse my anger. I think of how I might be able to solve things if I lived in a better state and I know of people who were able to solve it because they live in the right place. I then remember how they all tell me not to move to another state just to solve this problem. I am utterly paralyzed and have no idea what to do, but my problem remains unsolved. I am angry, resentful. I lie in bed and nurse it.

This whole vacation is pointless. I should have just stayed home and let the money spent on the bus fare be sunk.

Is the reason for your resentment fundamental to who you are? You mentioned money several times, and the state you live in - is there something you *need* from your parents that costs money and/or isn't available where you live?

You might as well name your resentment. Doing so won't be an actual, practical solution. But perhaps you'd be amazed how much it can help emotionally and it might let you think more clearly, or even help others help you...

Why do they tell you not to move to another state to solve the problem?

Would your parents turn on you if you had the surgery?