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I'm in a bad mood today and just feel like I have to vent..

It feels like people are always helping me and correcting me because I struggle with doing these things that are very simple and obvious. Then if they reassure me or act serious I feel bad because it's like they feel sorry for me so it makes me feel alienated because it feels like no one else can relate. It seems like I make a lot of people uncomfortable too because they act very serious around me even when I try to be friendly. When I already have trouble connecting with people it seems like I won't ever be able to have a close relationship. It seems like most people I know who I feel like I might be able to relate to are likable and intelligent and I'm just not good enough.

I understand how you feel.

I've had little kids talk down to me! LOL

Here's a {{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}

In your situation, I would retreat into my special interests--or just take a walk or something. Get out of the house.

Thank you.

I feel like I need to vent again.

It feels like a lot of people either feel sorry for me or target me and I feel so alienated. I feel like I won't be able to connect with people if they feel sorry for me. I'm not even sure what to do about it either. I try to act confident and I don't think I look sad or anything. It's just really upsetting because I feel like I'm not treated as an equal.

It wouldn't help with dating either because if someone feels sorry for me then they probably wouldn't be able to relate or connect with me. It seems like most guys and everyone else seems uncomfortable around me and push me away and I'm not really sure what to do about it. A lot of the guys that I have been interested in feel like I'm out of their league because they are more socially capable and intelligent. The few guys that seem interested loose interest pretty fast or they completely forget about me once another girl is around so it seems impossible to be in a real life relationship with someone when they loose interest so fast. I don't mean it in a competitive way like I want all guys to like me, but just a mutual interest.

Most guys want to be with girls that are very sociable and I'm like the complete opposite. I usually struggle to join in group conversations and sometimes I don't have any desire to socialize at all. I don't have any close friends and haven't had one in a very long time. The ones that want to get close to me seem to just want to dominate me and mess with my head. I'm probably being paranoid, but it sometimes feels like no one I know really cares about me.

Correction leads to perfection. And if those people do not want to be your friend then forget them. You are you, don't ever change yourself for anyone.

I think you may be depressed also. Feel better!

There are also many guys who like shy women, who are nice, nevertheless.

Thanks for the replies. I'm feeling a little better.

I don't really want to be friends with the kind of people that do that and usually try to avoid them if I can. I just think about the reasons for why it happens.

I'm glad you're feeling better.

I feel like I have to vent more.

I'm tired all the time and it makes me have more trouble interacting with others and I think I end up creeping everyone out because a lot of people I know act very indifferent or seem uncomfortable around me. Then if there's another person around they act very friendly with them. I wouldn't really feel bad about it if they acted that way towards other people too, but when they exclusively act that way towards me it's hard not to take it personally. I know some of them just aren't very nice to and I just try ignore them as much as I can, but a lot of other people do it too. When some people greet me they look at me weird when I respond back. Then sometimes when I glance at someone to see who it is they hold their heads down and look annoyed. It seems like a lot of people either feel sorry for me or target me. When people treat me like this it feels like I don't have a chance when it comes to finding someone who loves me because I make people so uncomfortable. The few guys seem interested in me usually end up pushing me away.

Hmm, it might be worthwhile to see how your glances look in the mirror. It might be that you are unintentionally looking at them in a way that would send a contradictory message to them. Also when you do glance and respond to people to you do anything else at the same time such as smile? I had similar problems in the past and found that smiling helped to defuse any unease I might accidentally put someone through immensely.

As far as finding someone goes telling them about your situation, tics, etc and helping them come to an understanding about how you truly feel for them is going to be key. They need to know that even if it seems you might be trying to push them away, what you really want is for them to reach out and try to connect with you.

I always smile back if they are smiling at me, but don't always smile when the other persons not because it's easier for me when the other person is smiling. Even when I do smile though they still give me strange looks and sometimes they just stare at me. Sometimes I worry that I might be staring at someone when I think I'm glancing so I usually just look at them for less than a second, but even then they still look down and have an annoyed expression. I stand up straight most of the time too and people still feel sorry for me and target me. Guys are usually the ones that push me away.

I wish I could give advice but I'm so bad with body language that I couldn't figure out what someone means or what signals I'm even giving myself Hang in there though. How's the job going?