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Disclaimer: I am not here to bash on women, I am having troubles in my life with severe self esteem and not sexism towards women.

I have no self esteem and unfortunately I feel in love by accident with someone I do not want to love that way. I am constantly concerned with her, thinking about her all the time. I am so sensitive to her that I always feel I am on her bad side, my self esteem dies everytime her boyfriend comes down her and talks to her(we work together in an office). I have been hurting myself(scratching arm to the point of bleeding and biting arm to brusing) and have been having suicidal thoughts, I have always been single and never been attractive to women. Girls do not get interested in me and everytime a girl is nice to me like this, I cannot stop myself from falling in love(especially when they make physical contact). This will be my 3rd heartbreak without having an actual girlfriend(or getting laid but that will be for another time to talk about). I am so anxious and depressed all the time about this now, what is worse is I do not understand people at all thanks to my Aspergers, and thanks to that I will likely not learn how to get a girlfriend.

Having ureciprocated feelings for someone sucks. I went through this recently with a co-worker and it was depressing. Try not to think about it; distract yourself with your interests. And know that everyone goes through this. But it's time to look in other directions as she has a boyfriend.
If you are self-harming, you need to talk to a doctor. It'll only get worse. And you don't want that to happen, it's a useless path.

Please, BaneBear,

Androbot makes sense, lots of sense.

Please don't blow your prospects because of unrequited love. Please don't give up finding a girlfriend.

I know it's hard not having a girlfriend--but I think you'll get one, eventually.

I've seen autistic/Asperger's people, here on WP, find girlfriends after having despaired similar to how you've despaired.

There really is more to life than having a girlfriend. Lots more.

Please seek medical help for the self-harming (it'll likely get much worse if left untreated) and get yourself screened for depression while you're there.