How can I improve?

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Please tell me how I can improve my interaction here.

Some things that I'm aware of:

1) When I'm depressed I can get moody and mean. Sorry about that. I will also post a lot of negative stuff because that's where my head is at.
2) I tend to talk in riddles, then I'm unable to explain myself. I know that annoys certain people here because they've told me so.
3) I make multiple posts as new thoughts come to me - is that annoying?
4) I don't answer difficult questions.

Is there any other things I do that I may not be aware of?

Please tell me honestly.
I want to improve my communication.

I haven't really found you annoying at all. The things you said about being negative are true at times, but I do that, too. So it's not like I can complain.

Talking in riddles is a bit confusing. I think I'd understand you better if you were more direct. But that could just be me.

Multiple posts don't bother me, personally.

Lots of people don't answer difficult questions. It can be mentally exhausting.

I don't really know you, so nothing has stood out as being bothersome about your communication. Sorry I can't be of more help.

I find you pretty cool, for the most part.

I wish I had your visual art ability.

You're just a bit quirky.

You'd be an interesting person to know.

We can all improve. I am far from perfect. I can get impatient, and hope for easy solutions to complex problems.

I wish I had more answers than I do at present.

The best way to improve is not to assume that people are out to get your goat, or to assume that all positive statements are phony (speaking in general, not in reference to you specifically).

It seems that you used to be more positive, but now you seem quite negative, but maybe there are reasons for that. There is nothing wrong with being negative though, it is just that I noticed some change.

I also had trouble being understood when I was young.

I'd suggest writing your posts someplace else--perhaps in a word processor or email application. Go and do something useful for 15 minutes--like checking to see what needs to be done today. Then edit that post once to make it more understandable. Copy, paste, and post it. Unless it really needs a lot of work--in which case you may want to do another edit 15 minutes later. With time your posts should become more understandable.

1 and 4 seem normal to me.
For 2: Most of what you say makes sense to me. On the few occasions where it doesn't I see it as an intriguing challenge, or as something that's cryptic because you need to get it out but don't necessarily want it known to others.
For 3: Well I hope people don't find it annoying, because I've been known to do it too.

Thanks for your feedback.
I'll try to be more positive.

I know I probably shouldn't post when I'm depressed but it does help me to work through my feelings.
I'll try to keep it confined to the WP Addicts Anonymous thread or Haven so I don't bother people too much.

In truth I don't put much thought into my posts.
It's whatever spills out of my brain at that moment.
I'll try to be more thoughtful in future.

As long as you don't attack people, I see nothing wrong with oddness in posts--as long as you clarify when asked.

I was thinking about how to reply, but don't have much..
I vote for no freezer frogs on a happy bunny post. But i'd still return to the post if you needed.

1. I think everyone can at times. I may have missed it, but i've never read a post from you toward anyone to which in my head, i replied "wow! Harsh!"

i don't know if everyond gets really down, but i do. And it taints things..but i've never seen you interrupt others' problems with yours, nor blame others/the world for anything you struggle with. Your style seems more internalized, somber, and if mean to anyone, it's by far worst to yourself. So, if you're down sometimes, and it comes out, so be it. If this is supposedly a supportive place, then it's not one where we must only post when elated.

2. Though it's possible i've misinterpreted at times, you've always made sense to me.

3. I never noticed.

4. Never noticed. But it's also not private conversations, so if one person doesn't answer something, someone else may. Even quoted replies are open to replies from anyone..or no one..people move on to different threads, sign off (briefly )..

I really don't have anything to add. If your posts were going on and on and really bringing me down with quantity and content, i'd say it here. But they're not.

And now for something completely different...