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I've been in a relationship for 4 years but it turned into a relationship of emotional abuse. She knows this is my environment and she turned it into unbearable environment.

I've worked in the same industry for the 8 years, security industry. Everyone abuses me, shouts, is abusive, aggressive. I am attacked all the time.

I have to run away, I can't sleep in this house but to do so, I need to save around 2 months wages. I can't bear the work anymore, I am shaking and can't sleep or eat anymore. I have massive headache and can't cope with a slightest sound or light. I can't find a place to recover my senses.

I've let know everyone I know but as it is the case with people they said something meant to show they are sorry but I did not get any real help or advice.

I need advice where to turn to, where to seek help. I can't be homeless again I would rather end with myself. I have no money and I can't stay in this house of job any longer.

I live in the UK. What should I do?

If you don't see a therapist, then start seeing one. Maybe the therapist can refer you for a diagnosis which would enable you to get some kind of council house away from your present situation.

As for now, until you get this diagnosis, I would try to stick with the job and the place you're living in now. It's far worse to be homeless than to have shelter.

That's really the only way out for you.

Otherwise....maybe your parents or relatives could take you in? And you could offer to help with the bills? Maybe getting away from your present home situation might improve things for you at work. Your ideal situation would probably be a room of your own within a house your parents own, and you could contribute something towards upkeep.

If its your environment why can't you kick her out? Who owns this house? Who pays for it? If her name isn't on the lease than throw her out, let her deal with homelessness. Surely she has family that would take her in and frankly even if she doesn't, you have to look out for yourself. You have to be selfish to survive in our world, I know for me the only person in this world I take care of is myself. I used to not be that way but I am now.

Now I'd say if thats not an option, than I'd suggest kraftiekortie's second piece of advice and seek relatives that you could live with for that two month period. Just make sure they can accommodate your space and them having a semi decent understanding of Autism would help too. I know moving is very stressful for me, try and hang in there.