I hate my husband's family

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Anyone that knows me knows I hate change of plans, especially if they happen at the last minute.

Today my husband and I were going to go out and buy Easter stuff and this was planned for all week. Then last night he decided on going to flea markets and I also decided we should buy more diapers too for our daughter since she is down to a few left so the plan it was. I planned to leave around noon so it gets few minutes close to it so I wake my husband up, I get the kids ready and then I go to the basement to get myself ready and bam that is when it happens, my sister in law is coming over.

What? Did I just hear that right?

Yeah you're right, my sister in law is coming over.

The freak out begins. I started screaming and I am very upset because the plans had changed. They live on the other side of town like 40 minutes out. I have no idea how bad traffic is and I don't know how long it will be for them to get here. No way am I waiting that long for them to get here when the flea market closes at 5 PM and I had planned to get the stuff and then go to the flea market. Big stress. To much change. Day ruined.

I am so pissed about all this and upset. My husband couldn't even say no because we had plans and he doesn't even see this as a last minute change. What?

I told my kids to forget it, we're not going anywhere, everything is cancelled and I decided to just go get the stuff myself and problem solved. I will get over it. But then my husband gets upset with me because he was wanting to do it with mew and I kept screaming to forget about it because he chose to not say no so suffer the consequence.

Why do I hate my husband's family, because they are too spontaneous. They can't stick to their plans, they procrastinate and when they decide to do things, it's at the last minute and then they inter fear with my plans and it deeply upsets me. They make me so anxious it's ridiculous because they can't stick to their plan and I don't know what to expect. I wonder how I would have survived growing up with them. At least in my family things were more planned and structured and my mom was always clear about doing things and saying if. Like we can go to the zoo this weekend if the weather is nice, if it's not raining, if you kids are good all week. But I don't know how I would have survived my husband's family if I grew up with them.

My husband was finally able to calm me down when he called them again and they were at the tunnel so it would be another twenty minutes and I decided to write this rant to blow off some steam and I just want to be alone and not talk to anyone or even be bothered.

My father was like your in-laws. I used to be at school like 20 minutes early to get settled in without all the kids around, it was like a necessary "adjustment" period for me every day. But days my dad would take me to school, eh just whenever, "don't worry about it, go with the flow." I would be stressed out the entire day because I wasn't really settled in. Then there was always the "hey it's Friday night, let's go on a weekend family road trip." Um, yeah I have homework, social engagements, etc.-- all cancelled or in the case of homework, half done, all because he just decided to spontaneously f**k up my weekend for his own pleasure. My only sibling is very similar to me, she's not autistic, but she's pretty big on schedule, and she would flip out when he'd do this too.