I hate how people I used to know have changed

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I have been noticing how different peoples lives are and how different people look now from not too long ago. Lots of people I used to know have children. They all look like they have aged surprisingly quickly. Two people I used to be friends with are now alcoholics and it's also made them look terrible. I really don't like all of this because i still feel as if I'm living the same situations as the past sometimes and I still think of these people as it used to be.
I still feel as if I'm still a teenager but I'm not. I feel like all these people are traitors...

It's a pity that these people became alcoholics, or have aged quite a bit because of having kids.

At least you haven't become an alcoholic, nor have you had kids,so you haven't change all that much.

At least you didn't follow the pack, or allowed peer-pressure to force you to do destructive things.

You have taken a different path, a path which just might lead to success.

I feel like this about a friend I used to have who is two years younger than me. He gradually became more mature than me, learned to drive at the normal age, found a girlfriend, did all the things people his age were supposed to do, and I just stayed the same. I didn't feel good enough for him anymore and was ashamed of myself whenever I saw him.

Grammar Geek: you are you, and your friend is your friend.

There are some important things you are good at, and he's not.

You'll learn to drive when you are ready to learn to drive. There's no set "age." Anyway, insurance rates for people under 25 are through the roof. It's also difficult to rent a car when you're under 25. All in all, it must might be better if you wait until you're 25.

As you get older, the quality of girlfriend will increase, too.

Most of the time, relationships for adolescents are experiments, anyway.

I began to feel that way in my mid twenties, right before I lost all contact with anyone I knew since my teens or earlier, other than family. I never thought of them as traitors, though---I am the one who failed to keep up.

I moved homes a lot all my life so its common for me to lose touch with everyone. I thought I didn't care but I probably care more than I should now. It doesn't beneficial to me to care about the people I've known in the past because they don't feel the same to me back.

I had the same best friend for 20 years(for most of those years my only friend), then in the last year of our friendship, he changed, and he wasn't the same person anymore. He turned into a total jerk. I hate when people change like that.

I consider myself lucky, because I've had many of the same friends for a very long time. Some have gone off to get married, some have kids, but most have stayed relatively the same. Or at least the quality of our relationships have stayed the same, even if we don't get to hang out as much as we used to.

I have lost a few friends along the way, and it can be painful, but it's inevitable that some relationships just aren't meant to last due to varying circumstances. New people will come into your life when you least expect it.

No problem, but I do see where it could be hard because making new friends isn't exactly easy. Plus most people will tell you friendship isn't meant to last forever anyway.