Any tips on dealing with self-esteem/confidence issues?

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On one of my recent topics I mention IMO alot. A person that replied mention me having self-esteem issues. My cousin also suggested this and that I was negative/hard on myself. Do any of you have tips on this issue? I have no idea HOW to feel better about myself. I let myself go feel "alright things are great I'm happy etc." then I end up messing up/upsetting someone. I told mom when I first started at College (just getting my GED at the time) I was scared/nervous then after about a year I came out of my shell etc. mom/me joked perhaps I should of stayed nervous. I feel I can BE confident if I just as I'd call it "let my behavior flow/be myself" but I also know IF I do that I WILL land in trouble as I have so many times in the past. Confidence is like I get a paper done excited to do it know I did good YA I wrote it feel I'll get an A (THAT kind of confidence) while NT/maybe you etc. Oh no what if I get a bad grade etc. I'm confident in my work since unlike other students I put my heart/soul into it!! ! I look at paper writing as WOULD I want to publish this? (might not be big enough for that) but basically would a consumer find this paper interesting. I don't write for class/teacher etc. So I can have Confidence! Any ideas would be appreciated.

How does that land you in trouble? This is something to examine closely, like you were doing research for a paper and figure out what sort of behaviors emerge when you are "being yourself" that get you in trouble.

Then, figure out how to adjust your behaviors so others won't find them "objectionable," but you can still be yourself.

Sometimes it's just a matter of degree. Your enthusiasm here is really wonderful, but some people might find it a bit off-putting--is that what you mean?

If so, just tone it down a little, but you don't have to stop being yourself to do it. It's all about "adapting" to the situation. I know that's not always easy, since social situations change so much, but I've found it to be an interesting social exercise.

Hope that helps.

Well perhaps the teacher talking became obsessive and as I've said before it was more what's your opinion as a Psychologist (on this article or this article etc.) NOT so much about actually BECOMING a psychologist (Looking back perhaps I should of focused on becoming a psychologist). With the coworker I would "jump" on her and be clingy "hey how are you etc. with friends I called I'd call over and over etc. (basically #1 issue I can become obsessive) I feel if I changed this "obsessiveness" would be better. and as you said my enthusiasm perhaps tone that down a notch.