Grieving and coping a parent's death as an Aspie

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Greetings,

My father passed away in his sleep exactly one week ago at age 58. I am doing my best to grieve and take care of myself while helping out my family. As a 22-year old man with Asperger's, this is the first time I have really experienced a death in my immediate family.

I made this video showing how I have been coping my father's sudden death:

Share this video if possible. I want the world to know that Aspies are NOT emotionless nor do not have feelings.

My dad was a police officer for 34 years before retiring. He loved his job as a police officer and being a security guard at the local children's hospital. My dad was a hard worker, and a dedicated family man.

My question to all of you is how do you all grieve or cope when things like this happen (even if the negative event in question doesn't involve death)? I would like to hear what you all have to say, and I'll read your stories and suggestions.

Thank you for all of your support and condolences.

Hi, My dad died when I was 26, so fairly close to the age you lost your dad. I think everyone grieves differently, there's no set way of doing it. It seems you are doing well with the grief by getting out and enjoying things you and your dad used to do together. Grief is like a journey, it's very hard at first and gets easier as time goes on. But don't let anyone put a timetable on you and tell you you should be over it by such and such a date. Beware, grieve can overcome you like a wave when you least expect it. The sight or sent or sound of something that reminds you of your dad can pop out at any time and you may need to just sit and cry for a bit, and that's ok. My dad died in February, and we buried him on Valentine's Day, so that day of the year is still hard on me. I remember the first Christmas without him and I pulled an ornament out of the box that had special meaning to him. That made me have to sit down and cry for a while. So as time goes on, stuff like that might happen to you too. Even though it's been 37 years since my dad is gone, there are still many times that I wish I could talk to him. Life is just not the same when you can't share it with your dad anymore. Allowing yourself time to grieve the loss is emotionally healthy. So if you just need to sit and cry for a bit, that's ok. (((Hugs))) to you and your whole family.