Nothing to do only makes me more lonely + stressful move

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In short:

1. I like reading but can't order new books because we're moving soon.
2. I like creating music and want to buy myself some studio quality speakers but can't because we're moving soon (aka order online and have it mailed).
3. My Xbox broke the same day I was going to back everything up on a USB. My Sims (sims = game where you make your own family) profile I've been using the last 6 months and I have to start all over again not just on that but all other games. I can't order a new Xbox to be mailed to me because moving.
4. The majority of my stuff is packed in boxes.
5. Internet isn't working. Completely. I can only be on here temporarily and very rarely for now.
6. Mum is very frustrated, stressed and overwhelmed and this upsets me to see this. I wish I could help. She is constantly having to deal with incompetent companies and having fees and bills thrown at her.
7. My social life is non-existant and I'm extremely lonely. Have been for the past 6 months. Most of the things I use to distract myself are broken or I can't access them now. All my friends from high school betrayed me or aren't interested in talking anymore. My current friends all live far away due to my family constantly moving, the closest one a few hours away, the furthest on the other side of the entire country. I have no job and am not studying. All I do with my time is volunteer at a clothes retail store, go to a disability social group with other men no younger than 25, and when not doing that spend time in my room on computer, exercising, playing video games, making music, reading, etc.
8. The days are long, the move stressful. I've already loaned over $1,000 to mum, but the costs keep adding up so I may have to loan more.
9. I am happy to move but the days have been long and stressful. To add insult to injury, the weather here has been the worst it's been in years (the new place is a sunny, beautiful coastal city with nice beaches). It's cold and wet here when right now we could be swimming and in the sun. I hate living here, we all do, and just want to leave.
10. My favorite sport is swimming, but I cannot do so right now because the pools here are expensive and it's too damn cold, so have to wait until we move.
11. I am having trouble changing my address/updating details to social security and may have to go in just to update a few details that should take mere minutes online. They are blocking me from doing so on my online account when they have no reason to do such a thing. My phone number is incorrect (I gave them the correct one but they screwed up) and I can't change it.
12. This computer in general (not just the internet) is a ticking time bomb and no matter what I do I can't even delay the inevitable - one day it too will break.
13. The criminal who kidnapped and murdered my Mum's cousin when she was a kid was transferred from a prison half the country away to one 10-15 mins out of town. He may be released very soon. He has no way of finding us, but my grandmother is on the local electoral roll so he could possibly track us down.

Sounds stressful. Hope it won't be long now. Yay for the beaches!

Are you able to turn yourself into a lean mean box packing machine? I've noticed that I can become absurdly happy doing repetitive, menial work. Some kind of zen. Maybe you could make a deal with your mom to pack a lot if she keeps an overview?

Good luck with everything!

I'm sorry you're going through all this. I understand how stressful this is for you. But stay strong, my friend.

It will all be over soon.

It's nice that you are lending your mother the money.

Do you have a Kindle-type device, a Tablet? You could download books on that device, or even your computer.

You have buddies here. I hope you get more buddies where you are going to move.

I'm not going to harp on you going to University this time

Hi Outrider, Having to move is one of the most stressful things in life for me, so I feel for you. I had to move 2,000 miles five years ago and I still have a stack of unpacked boxes in the garage. I guess if I haven't looked at the stuff in five years, I should just throw it out. How long before you are scheduled to be in your new place?

I just realized that I may seem to not understand how stressful the situation is for you. I do. It's just that I try to divide things in life into two categories:

1. Things I can do something about
2. Things that are outside my control

It's a very helpful tool when life gets too much.

How are you feeling today?

I bet, by the time you turn 22, that you will have at least a girlfriend--plus, you'll have a University degree.

You'll have the chicks swarming over you, man.

I know I sound whiney and plenty have it worse off then me, it's just I already feel stress and depression a lot of the time and obviously my hobbies and interests help keep me sane and relaxed.

Without the vast majority of these things, what else do I have to keep calm with? Many of the DVDs are even packed away so I can't really kick back and watch a good movie.

This plus a lot of added stress recently related to financial issues and feeling unsafe living here. Plus the weather does tend to influence my depression as well.

I'm excited to move but also a little worried my belongings may get lost or broken, especially since we couldn't find many good boxes to use.

It does sound materialistic of me and material items can be replaced but at the same time we all like to own things that bring us joy and help us relax.

Simply put the majority of my hobbies and interests I cannot access right now and internet usage is limited as well and Im realizing how much free-time that leaves me with giving me too much time on my hands. Chores, packing for the move and going to the retail store I volunteer at don't take enough time out of my day.

This time was occupied by activites to distract myself but now it's just times where I'm feeling stressed or upset more often.

I'm feeling better since we've got a temporary internet thing set-up for the time being.

You know, the feeling of being unsafe is perhaps the key factor. I think anyone would empathize about that, and the need to keep your mind busy with something enjoyable. Perhaps there is nothing to worry about, but it's hard to tell that to yourself with the kind of family history you have.

Can you turn into a tv slob for a few days? Sit and hurl cardboard pieces at Oprah or something?

When you move you'll probably need a while to settle down in the new place. Be prepared for that emotional reaction.