Moderator comment: Member comment deleted. The Haven is for support, personal criticism of an OP is not acceptable.
The Haven is designated as a protected forum and all posters are asked to be mindful of this at all times when posting here. The rules of this forum are more strictly applied. People come here because they are feeling wounded. Please don't add to that with personal criticisms.
None of us can ever really know how desperate a space any OP might really be in, (or that we ourselves may be in some time) and reaching out here has been for some a very last attempt to hold things together and make it through the tunnel of absolute despair. Sensitivity, acceptance, support, understanding, affirmation - these are all gifts we can make to posters who are going through a tough time. Who knows when we may be in need of them too..